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Ex girlfriend still acting like we're together

ZhaoYun

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I'm sure some guys have been through situations where you'll string an ex along especially if there's a guarantee lay involved.

Well - this is what I'm going through. I broke up with this chick 3 months ago, yet she still wants to hang out and go places with me.

When we go out, she pays for my meals, movie tickets, etc. She even got me christmas presents and valentines day gifts. I felt I had no choice but to except them because she didn't make a big deal out of it. I didn't get her anything for Xmas or V Day.

I've already discovered this girl isn't relationship material, that's why I dumped her. She's one of those typical MySpace/Facebook college girls with a plethora of guys wanting to hook up. Yet, she always wants to hook up with me at least once a week to get fvcked and go about her business.

I need to know what's the deal? This girl must know that we'll never be together because I caught onto her games in the past and will never been in a relationship with her again. Gotta admit I like the situation I'm in - good lay, free meals etc but I wonder if maybe I'll end up getting screwed over somehow. She seems to really want to be with me, but I can't go there again. Thoughts?
 

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This may not be a popular opinion around here, but what you're doing isn't fair to her. I'm not saying that you are messing with her head on purpose, but you need to make it clear to her that you will never be anything more than friends. She's trying to win you back.
 

ZhaoYun

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That could be what she's doing but I know full well she just isn't waiting for me to come running back into her arms. There's no doubt in my mind she's still out there on the prowl. Hell, when we were together she went to parties all of the time without inviting me.

The way I see it is we're benefiting each other. She understands we're not together but always lets me know I have a piece of her heart, etc. I actually think she's cool with just being fvck buddies but you're right I also know she wants more. But it can't happen.

Is it wrong to keep reaping the benefits? I don't feel bad about it because she's such a young chick(20) she shouldn't be in an LTR anyways.
 

eaglez1177

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ZhaoYun said:
I'm sure some guys have been through situations where you'll string an ex along especially if there's a guarantee lay involved.

Well - this is what I'm going through. I broke up with this chick 3 months ago, yet she still wants to hang out and go places with me.

When we go out, she pays for my meals, movie tickets, etc. She even got me christmas presents and valentines day gifts. I felt I had no choice but to except them because she didn't make a big deal out of it. I didn't get her anything for Xmas or V Day.

I've already discovered this girl isn't relationship material, that's why I dumped her. She's one of those typical MySpace/Facebook college girls with a plethora of guys wanting to hook up. Yet, she always wants to hook up with me at least once a week to get fvcked and go about her business.

I need to know what's the deal? This girl must know that we'll never be together because I caught onto her games in the past and will never been in a relationship with her again. Gotta admit I like the situation I'm in - good lay, free meals etc but I wonder if maybe I'll end up getting screwed over somehow. She seems to really want to be with me, but I can't go there again. Thoughts?
So shes pretty much a fvck buddy. Whats wrong with that you got nothing to worry about. I wish I was in your position bro lol. I mean seriously just think, whats the worst thing that could happen here? Nothing. As long as your not emotionally attached to her and you dont care about her fvcking other guys or hooking up with other guys then everything is fine.
 
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