gravityeyelids
Master Don Juan
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Okay, so kind of a weird situation here. I dated this girl for....idk maybe a year? We were hooking up for a good 6 months before that so it's hard to say. But anyway, about 6 months ago we "broke up" because she applied for this great study abroad opportunity, told me about it before she decided on taking it or not....i basically said that it was a great opportunity and she should take it and that i dont want us to be one of those couples that stays together and sacrifices our careeer's to be together. Since she was graduating following this study abroad, and lives in a different state, there wasnt a viable way that we could expect to be together following this trip. However, she promised to come visit for a few days when she comes back. And that's what she's doing this week.
So i let her go, we kept in pretty constant contact. I spent the semester hooking up with some nice college gals. I hesitate to call her my ex, seeing as how we are still extremely close and are really tight and all that.
So we booked two nights at a hotel, since theres no way we're staying at my parent's house when she comes to visit.
Here's my concern: I'm worried about how she's going to react to basically being treated like my girlfriend: taken out to dinner, lots of banging in the hotel room, going out with my friends to the bars and having to introduce her...etc. She's a very level headed girl, and its beautiful how little drama she gives me.
There's a more than slight chance that when she actually gets here that she might get a little moody because technically we're not dating, yet we're acting like we are, especially when i have to introduce her to some of my friends, and im not sure what title to introduce her as. What's the best way to react to this if she calls me out on it. Now, obviously i've been banging other girls while she's away, and i could give fvck-all who she's been banging, and i dont even intend to ask her about it, since we broke up. But she's probably going to throw the question out: so how many girls have you slept with? Obviously im not going to answer this question. HOWEVER if she starts giving me sh!t about us technically not being together, how should i handle it?
Here's what I think:
1)Without getting mad, i tell her that we're not dating because it's not viable given our locations in different states. Tell her i dont do LTR relationships (i dont!) because in order to be "dating" someone i feel like you have to see them at least a few times a week (she lives a good 3-4hrs away).
2) Re-assure her that despite this, we still care a lot for each other, and that she was the one that both promised and chose to come out here and spend time with me when she came back. (She did, she kept saying she was going to come visit RIGHT when she got back. I was reluctant, but she followed through, and it was her initiative that made her come here, i didnt beg her in any way.) Re-inforce that it was her initiative that made her come visit, and that if it's too painful for her to come and then leave again, that i didnt beg or ask her to.
3) Tell her that she can either be grumpy and ruin this short time we have together, or put on a happy face and enjoy life and then kiss her or hug her or play wrestle her or be goofy or whatever
So i let her go, we kept in pretty constant contact. I spent the semester hooking up with some nice college gals. I hesitate to call her my ex, seeing as how we are still extremely close and are really tight and all that.
So we booked two nights at a hotel, since theres no way we're staying at my parent's house when she comes to visit.
Here's my concern: I'm worried about how she's going to react to basically being treated like my girlfriend: taken out to dinner, lots of banging in the hotel room, going out with my friends to the bars and having to introduce her...etc. She's a very level headed girl, and its beautiful how little drama she gives me.
There's a more than slight chance that when she actually gets here that she might get a little moody because technically we're not dating, yet we're acting like we are, especially when i have to introduce her to some of my friends, and im not sure what title to introduce her as. What's the best way to react to this if she calls me out on it. Now, obviously i've been banging other girls while she's away, and i could give fvck-all who she's been banging, and i dont even intend to ask her about it, since we broke up. But she's probably going to throw the question out: so how many girls have you slept with? Obviously im not going to answer this question. HOWEVER if she starts giving me sh!t about us technically not being together, how should i handle it?
Here's what I think:
1)Without getting mad, i tell her that we're not dating because it's not viable given our locations in different states. Tell her i dont do LTR relationships (i dont!) because in order to be "dating" someone i feel like you have to see them at least a few times a week (she lives a good 3-4hrs away).
2) Re-assure her that despite this, we still care a lot for each other, and that she was the one that both promised and chose to come out here and spend time with me when she came back. (She did, she kept saying she was going to come visit RIGHT when she got back. I was reluctant, but she followed through, and it was her initiative that made her come here, i didnt beg her in any way.) Re-inforce that it was her initiative that made her come visit, and that if it's too painful for her to come and then leave again, that i didnt beg or ask her to.
3) Tell her that she can either be grumpy and ruin this short time we have together, or put on a happy face and enjoy life and then kiss her or hug her or play wrestle her or be goofy or whatever
