It's seems like everytime i voice my opinion or whatever. Even if i'm positive i'm right, because i have more experience in the subject. Everyone seems to disagree with me. For example some stupid girl in my video arts class who never stops *****ing about **** wanted to add transitions inbetween the shots, but me who has been doing it for 3 years told her it looks weird, and then she asked a random first year guy, and he disagreed with me. I know it's a weird question, but i'd appreciate if you guys can help in any way you can.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Everyone disagrees with me. It's infuriating!
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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got any other example? the one you gave could simply be the girl *wanting* her slides and the guy wanting the girl so he agreed with her; doesn't mean much. Do you have any concrete examples?
Also, on a sidenote, be more tactful when you disagree. Else people feel attacked
Also, on a sidenote, be more tactful when you disagree. Else people feel attacked
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
You're wrong.Rint said:
OH C'MON, YOU ASKED FOR IT!!!
Seriously, it's only an issue if you make it one. You do what you feel is right and let the others do the same. If they do something different than what you would do, would it change your life?
Dude, you are SO wrong, it isn't even funny. Lol.Rint said:
Of course, there are times when you have to be willing to TRY it to know. It can be infuriating when someone has a habit of just saying it won't work when they don't have any idea. Otherwise, if you're reasonable, no worries.
Heh. I had a stupid manipulative "goddess" wannabe (she didn't have much going on upstairs) cry - in a college class. It was kind of cool. I broke her brain. Of course, oon the other hand, she was manipulative and "hot" so I got a little crap for making the "poor girl" cry. But... I got to her, and I didn't let her get her way for once. It was kind of rewarding in a way.
And dude, sometimes you have to give in to the idiots, and let me tell you, videographers have a horrible reputation for being nonprofessional for a reason. I've worked for places that tried cheating me out of money, I worked for places that refused to listen to sense, and I improved the work on a few companies reputations.
But, they didn't act responsible, I'd get sick of the stupidity and lazyness, and I didn't stay long. It's not MY loss... but theirs.
comic_relief
Master Don Juan
No Francisco, I just disagree with him.Francisco d'Anconia said:
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.