"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Escalating a shy girl - advice needed

ItalianBasics

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Hey,

I'm (23) living in a house with nine other people, one of them is a girl (22) I like. On some days I'm showing that I like her, but most of the time I'm acting like she was just an okay friend.
I don't know how to KC her. I'd also like to go to her, take her shoulders, whisper something into her ear, smell her neck, kiss it, turn her around -> KC. But I'm afraid "just do it" won't do it here, because she is ultra-shy/LSE, especially when it comes to KINO (no bf since she was 15, possibly virgin).
So I'd like to do it more slowly. Any advice?

I thought of showing that I like her more often. That's not easy for me, because I'm totaly used to this "I don't care about you"-attitude since years.

I also thought about this "give me your hand -> how can this duck cross the stream? -> who cares, I just wanted to hold your hand"-routine, followed by a "can I have your hand again, or do we need another stupid routine?" later.

I also thought of looking into her eyes and saying something like "I like these long ECs we sometimes have" and maybe add "could we do that again?" and "how about more?" and take her shoulders, "maybe even more?" and KC.

Note: when it comes to KINO, we've had enough of these 'casual' touches, plus I laid on her lap once, held her shoulders from behind, pulled her hair, etc. But no hug! I tried once when she started crying, but she was like a statue, so I stopped that and joked how petrified she was.


Any advice?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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kingsam

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gwetting with a person you live with will end up being very awkward for you

it will be awkward for oyu, because you are having to ask, so you obv. dont have a sufficent skill level to sucessfully pull this off...
 
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I think your canned routines are a real winner. If she's really dumb and oblivious, she may not even notice how contrived and disingenuous you are.
 
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