"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Ending on a High Note

bigneil

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Think back over your relationships that ended.

Some of them ended on a night when you were intimate. Perhaps it was the night you were the most intimate of all. In some of those cases you were to never see them again and eventually lost contact. While at the time these events can seem almost tragic (assuming you didn't want it to end), in hindsight, when you look back over your life and remember the women you dated, those ones will stand out the best. The reason is that our brains recall things based on the most recent interaction. It's like how the most recent email in the queue will be on top. They, too will remember you on that high note, even if they pushed you away at the time.

Compare this to the relationships where you tried to hold on and it slipped away slowly, or maybe dissolved to the point where she emailed all in capitals DO NOT CONTACT ME AGAIN. Those relationships, even if they achieved higher highs previously, will always be remembered on a sour note.

Thus, it occurred to me that all relationships would ideally end on a high note, even if it means cutting all ties in a cruel way.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Awesome post Sir! This ties right back into the core practice that a guy must learn the signs of uninterested women, cheating women, crazy women, BPDs, sociopaths, etc, etc, etc... and etc... And know when the totality of said facts give good cause to end the relationship immediately on his terms first before she takes more from him mentally, emotionally, financially, etc. and ends it on her terms. Handling it this way on my terms always makes for the High Note, IMO. I just posted about 10 mins ago about a STR I just ended (title Digital Blocking Game). I had zero emotional feelings for this woman, but even if I had, I knew when to end it before she did me harm. We only dated a month or so.. But the red flags were popping up like mushrooms on a sunny humid day after a rain.
 
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