"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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email from the ex

grayclif

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Ok! It's been exactly 6 months since I have spoken to this woman. Just as I have finally stopped thinking about her, stopped looking for her car when driving. Just when my mind has started to clear and I can really focus on my work or whatever else for that matter. I get an email from her. I didn't read it. It's just sitting in my inbox.

My heart's even beating faster. Just after the breakup she would send me an email then post on facebook how wonderful everything was with the new bf. Kind of like a signal to keep her in my mind. She was the main reason I deleted my facebook account. Anyways this email came through from a new address since I blocked all her others. I don't need to be thinking about this shlt now.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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TheCzar

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hahahha... You should read the Gangi thread in the tips section. One of the final posts talks about how you need to give the impression you have moved on. The irony is, in many cases, when you finally have somehow "they know" and that's when they contact you.

TC
 

jophil28

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grayclif said:
Ok! It's been exactly 6 months since I have spoken to this woman.
..... I get an email from her. I didn't read it. It's just sitting in my inbox.
She has contacted you because her life did not work out the way that she planned . She is testing the waters with you to see if she can use you as ' fall back guy' until she locates another guy to shack up with. When she does , she will tell you that she is " confused " or "needs some space."

As hard as it may be - delete that email.
IT was sent for a reason, one which will never be to your benefit.
 

Blue Phoenix

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jophil28 said:
She has contacted you because her life did not work out the way that she planned . She is testing the waters with you to see if she can use you as ' fall back guy' until she locates another guy to shack up with. When she does , she will tell you that she is " confused " or "needs some space."

As hard as it may be - delete that email.
IT was sent for a reason, one which will never be to your benefit.
Well I would read! lol. Just to see the amount of bullsh!t. Jo is right, that next dude flunked her tests.

Man I don´t know but maybe you can turn the tables. If she´s still trying to go back it´s because you may have some quality that she still likes. Women always have options, they can have sex whenever they want.

It depends on what you want from her.

Once I was a "fall back" guy with a girl and guess what? Our sexual connection was so good, she wanted to keep me as FB even though she was getting back to her husband!!!
 
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