Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Last night i was drinking at my friends house. I went out to my car and was laying in the back seat with the keys in my hand with NO intent to drive. My e brake slipped and backed into a police car that was close by. I got fvckin charged with a dui even though i wasnt driving, the keys werent anywhere NEAR the ignition and i was laying down in the back fvckin seat. Today we took my car to the shop to get the brake checked and sure enough it needed to be adjusted. So what are the chances of me actually getting charged with this crap and having to go to jail and all that bullsh*t when i didnt do ANYTHING wrong?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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take it to court bro...that sh!t was foul by the cop that "busted"
u...
 

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Here is a case for you to discuss with your lawyer:

People v. Swain
959 P.2d 426
Colo.,1998.

In Colorado, a person "drove" if he or she was in actual physical control of a motor vehicle.
"Actual Physical Control" is present when a person exercises bodily influence or direction over a motor vehicle; which is to be decided by a totality of the circumstances.
Factors you may consider in deciding whether or not a person was in actual physical control of a motor vehicle, include, but are not limited to the following:
A. Where the vehicle was found;
B. Where in the vehicle the person was found;
C. Whether or not the keys were in the motor vehicle's ignition;
D. Whether or not the motor vehicle was running;
E. Any other factor which tends to indicate that the person exercised bodily influence or direction over a motor vehicle or not based on your every day experience.
No one factor listed above definitively decides whether or not a person was in actual physical control of a motor vehicle.
 

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YOU PUT YOUR CAR IN PARK, OR IN FIRST GEAR WHEN IT IS TURNED OFF. wow.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I dont know if i was technically arrested, but i did have to ride to the hospital in the back of the police car. They didnt read me my rights before asking anything so does that matter?
 

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Originally posted by oakraiderz2
I dont know if i was technically arrested, but i did have to ride to the hospital in the back of the police car. They didnt read me my rights before asking anything so does that matter?
No you didnt get arrested, they do that to me all the time when Im out tresspassing in places where I skate, they take me home and give me a warning and a few days later I assume they forgot so im out again. they dont do anything unless you actualy look like you did it on purpose. oh but your 19 so I dont know how it works for adults.
 

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Originally posted by oakraiderz2
Last night i was drinking at my friends house. I went out to my car and was laying in the back seat with the keys in my hand with NO intent to drive. My e brake slipped and backed into a police car that was close by. I got fvckin charged with a dui even though i wasnt driving, the keys werent anywhere NEAR the ignition and i was laying down in the back fvckin seat. Today we took my car to the shop to get the brake checked and sure enough it needed to be adjusted. So what are the chances of me actually getting charged with this crap and having to go to jail and all that bullsh*t when i didnt do ANYTHING wrong?
for the most part, it doesn't matter. If you're in your car with your keys...you're techincally driving. I've heard a lot of people get DUIs for sitting in their car sobering up....I used to do that too.

I think if you're going to do this, throw the keys in the trunk and close it, then sleep. I would think that having your keys physically away from you would ensure in the future you don't get a DUI.

Just don't lock yourself out!

BUT..get a lawyer, I'm sure you can pleabargain down to an MIP (minor in Posession)
 

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Re: Re: Dui....

Originally posted by Xericx
for the most part, it doesn't matter. If you're in your car with your keys...you're techincally driving. I've heard a lot of people get DUIs for sitting in their car sobering up....I used to do that too.

I think if you're going to do this, throw the keys in the trunk and close it, then sleep. I would think that having your keys physically away from you would ensure in the future you don't get a DUI.

Just don't lock yourself out!

BUT..get a lawyer, I'm sure you can pleabargain down to an MIP (minor in Posession)
If the keys are in the ignition its a dui for the intent to drive, which my keys clearly were not.
 

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How about you had the keys in your hand...

but you were so drunk you climbed into the back seat instead...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Re: Re: Re: Dui....

Originally posted by oakraiderz2
If the keys are in the ignition its a dui for the intent to drive, which my keys clearly were not.
Nope. even if they are in your pocket, I've heard about people getting DUIs. Its a completely stupid rule, since you're obviously trying to sober up by sleeping in your car. I suppose the police would rather you sleep on the curb of the street....
 

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Re: Re: Re: Re: Dui....

Originally posted by Xericx
Nope. even if they are in your pocket, I've heard about people getting DUIs. Its a completely stupid rule, since you're obviously trying to sober up by sleeping in your car. I suppose the police would rather you sleep on the curb of the street....
I think it differs for each state, but here i think as long as the keys arent in the ignition its not a dui. My dad did some research and thats what he told me earlier today. The cops know the law too but i think they were being *******s trying to bust a young black kid with a nice car...b*tches.
 
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