"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Drunken Fool with FWB

Thatfeel21

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So I decided to get wasted this weekend cuz of my bday.....and the woman who im fwb with was at the place...Turns out I get super wasted and begged her the entire night to hook up with me (despite none of our friends knowing whats going on between us) and now things are 'weird'. Told her that I am sorry and it will never happen again but yet she texted back saying she is "turned off" by my behavior.

My actual b-day is tommorrow and we discussed prior that I was going to come over that night for some loving to which she agreed. But now, Im not sure wth is going on? Help? Should I ignore her until she comes around or just arrive as if everything is all good?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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spiegel549

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Thatfeel21 said:
So I decided to get wasted this weekend cuz of my bday.....and the woman who im fwb with was at the place...Turns out I get super wasted and begged her the entire night to hook up with me (despite none of our friends knowing whats going on between us) and now things are 'weird'. Told her that I am sorry and it will never happen again but yet she texted back saying she is "turned off" by my behavior.

My actual b-day is tommorrow and we discussed prior that I was going to come over that night for some loving to which she agreed. But now, Im not sure wth is going on? Help? Should I ignore her until she comes around or just arrive as if everything is all good?
Been there a ton of times. You got drunk. You made a mistake. No big deal. You apologized for being drunk w.e it happens. Just don't BEG for her forgiveness. I mean bro no offense you gotta stop with the spilling of the feelings drunk. Just DON'T DO IT.

If I did that the next day I would just act normal like nothing happened. When she brought it up I would of just said "yeah im sorry my friends just wouldn't stop buying me shots I was drunk lol" then move on like nothings wrong.

She is now "turned off" thats fine. Act normal. Wait until tomorrow and hit her up saying "hey you want to get together tonight." If she says yes, go over and act like nothing happened. If she acts like a weirdo, then just say "alright cool maybe another time." and go out and celebrate again lol!

No big deal bro. Always play it light and fun. Leave the emotions for the girls.
 

HalfPUAHalfAFC

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Dude... I know it's too late, but, here's what you should have done.

First, do little to no flirting with FWB while out at the club/bar. Chat here and there, be nice, a little light kino, and mingle with others. Say NOTHING about sex.

Second, at some point in the evening just go over to FWB and say, "I'm going home, you should come with me." She'd probably do it. If not, shrug and say, "Cool, some other time then." And let it go.

As far as "fixing" your current situation? Well, yeah, you did turn her off with the begging. Cringe-worthy.

I think its probably too early to hit her up for sex again. Wait a while and try to land a new one during your birthday night out. Extra points if she finds out.

Give it a week or two and send her a text like, "Hey, come over, bring the movies" and see if she bites. If not, she's done with you.
 
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