"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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DR: Last night!

WhitePimp

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This is my first real date report so I may suck at details but here goes!:moon:


The last date I had been on was quite a disaster(I posted a thread but don't feel like searching), so I made every effort to improve upon it. First of all, I wanted to avoid eating first inside AT ALL COSTS. It just kills vibing in my opinion and it's boring to me. So from now on, it's ACTION all the way in the beginning(thank you sosuave!). Next I planned all the way up to the end and had ideas for every possible circumstance which made me more comfortable and not need to use them anyway. Just knowing I had many alternatives put me at ease and made everything seem natural.

I was at my job and saw this cutey walk in and wound up approaching her later on and getting her number. My biggest problem was that I'd always wait TOO long to call the girl and interest would be bad so I said "screw it" and called her up the next day and asked if she wanted to go to the park with me that night since it was way too gorgeous out to stay indoors...she agreed and that night we met up. I was going to try that picnic idea someone posted but she wasn't hungry so I told her to stop at a drugstore so I could buy a frisbee to throw around at the park.

She seemed very skeptical at this point, and probably wondering if she was going to be bored out of her mind, not to mention going with a weird guy to the park who she's only known for a total of 10 minutes, but hey, I'm hot so I guess she trusted me! :p

We get at the park and she seems VERY nervous so I tease her a bit and run around goofily throwing the frisbee at her and generally being a dork, and this seemed to open her up as she was laughing and playfully punching. It was getting too dark to see the frisbee so I just suggested walking around the park. We walked and talked for an hour or so all the while I was teasing her and just being myself(goofy and playful...this is the REAL ME, why did I always suppress him in the past for some girls' sake???????). She was European so that made her double interesting and we did a lot of comparing between the two continents with light kino, me peeing behind a bush and telling her not to peek, the usual ****.

After walking around the park I tell her to swing with me and she LOVES IT! She said ever since she's been in the US guys have always just taken her to dinner/movie etc and nobody's ever done something as easy as the park but I made it so much more exciting than those other guys, obviously I'm in ego trip heaven here after she tells me that. We sit down for awhile and bull**** about whatever and I can tell her feelings are swirling like a toilet flush after this(I also palm read her, played that soda tab game with her, smelled her hair to which she replied "are you gaming me?"...question caught me a bit off guard because that's exactly what I was doing but I just joked it off and said something like I just notice things like that, whatever but it worked). We also semi made plans to do other things(she's active as HELL which is PERFECT for me)

The night came to an end as she drove me back to where I left my car, and we hugged, I kissed her cheek and as she was leaving she played this blasting club music in her car and I did my "sucky club dance" in the parking lot and she laughed her ass off. I left with a hard on but it was well earned.


In conclusion, I've been on this site for like a year or so and been on many many dates that have gone well and have gone bad but last night was the first time I really felt myself BECOMING the person I've been trying to be this last year. Every move was exactly how I wanted it to be and I was able to show my true humorous goofy self without looking like a fool just trying to get laughs. Kino was great, patterns were great, setting was absolutely amazing...it all came together into what I consider the new standard for which I will date. No more doing boring **** like dinner/movie, I will take control and bring her to my comfort zone and show her my true self and bring her into my world. Once again, her saying she's never been on a date like the one with me made me thank the Lord for what this site teaches...it truly is invaluable.

One minor gripe though, I've run some of those patterns on other girls and done similar things on different occasions, and when I used them all tonight, they worked fine but I honestly felt like a magician just pulling **** out of a bag of tricks. It built her interest level like a beast, but at the same time, I almost felt bad because this girl thought she was getting everything spur of the moment, whereas in my head I know I've practiced this **** on SO many girls. I guess I just feel a little fake and/or unmoral, but hey, if it works it works! :D
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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skip2mylou781

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hello, if the date was going really well, then why dont you read my thread on GUNWITCH....because seems to me you just wasted an opportunity to make out with her!
 

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Don't put the kiss off until the end of the date, it's to typical and wastes opportunities.

When you are having fun during the date, pull her in for a short kiss. Not a heavy make out, but kiss for a few seconds then go back to the activity.

This will alter her state for the rest of the date, and will enhance the results of your kino.
 

WhitePimp

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There was no rush for anything...I'd rather create the groundwork this time and build up the tension for next time when I really get her into a crazy ass sexual state! :rockon:
 
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