don't wait for her

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

stumpy_mcgee

Don Juan

Jul 22, 2005

One of the only problems i've encountered with women after reading material on this website is the whole 'being a challenge' thing. Now, of course, being a challenge is a good thing. Personally, I just took it to too much of an extreme, to the point where I really wouldn't go for the girl. In some cases the girls would go after me...but only for a little while, then they'd lose interest.
My advice, hang out with the girl you're interested in, not neccesarily as dating to begin with, but don't let that stop you from flirting with them. After a little while, stop seeing them as much...give them something to miss.

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.