Don't know what do. Please help DJS!!!

[Elf]

I need some help here fellow DJS, the situation is this:

I've been dating this girl for about 2 months, and i really like her a lot, but the situation now it's kinda strange, she is on vacation and she is always calling me or sending me sms asking for me to call her, but the thing is i really like that she is so interested in me by calling me etc, but not even a master dj has new things to say on the phone 5 or 6 times a day.... do u guys understand? I sure hope she comes back soon, so i don't have to talk with her so many times and without nothing new to say.

she send me sms's asking me to call her and i don't, what are the consequences for me not doing what she wants i wonder. one thing i know i like that girl A LOT and i dont wanna do something that i may regret someday so i'm here seeking for mature advices and help.

Any oppinions will be welcomed

 

[apodyopsis]

its generally not good 2 talk that much, and if shes calling that much, well, u shouldnt be home! and sounds like shes been trying other methods of reaching u, well, try to keep the communication at MOST once a day, but not for too long. since shes outta town, take the time 2 meet up with some friends u might have gotten out of touch with? and there shouldnt be consequences if u dont call, its not your fault ur a man, to quote some part of the bible "men arent available, their out climbing mountains..." if i could remember the whole thing id share it, but memory is not my best trait. i had an awesome 8 month relationship that lost its spark because we talked too much, so if u wanna keep things going and u like this girl like you say, talk once a day at most, even try calling once every other day or even 2. the time she waits for you to call will just make her wonder wat ur doing, if you give her a play by play everyday then uve lost the element of "mystery"

just my 2 cents, im not the most experienced guy on the board but hope this helps!

 

[Elf]

the fact is that she calls me to my cell phone, which makes things a little bit difficult, and i need it to be on, because of people at work trying to contact me, friends etc. but i think you're right apodyopsis, i can't be afraid of what the consequences will be.

Thanks for your great help man

 

[tactic]

keep calling her and so on if you like her alot and she likes you back

 

[DiSt0rTi0n_07]

If she calls you several times per day and you return each one she knows that you are never busy, you will stop whatever you are doing to call her back, she has you by the b@lls.

Cut back a little. If you don't answer every call then you become more mysterious in her eyes. It also helps avoid having her squeeze your nuts to get her way.

Be a man, man. Good luck!

 

[jakeyboy]

man... what the heck does she do on holiday? shouldn't she be enjoying her experiece in the new place? why don't you try telling her to enjoy herself and you guys will catch up when she gets back... think that would be the most sensible thing to do. you know, i have a feelnig you'll tire of her soon.. even girls need to be a bit of a challenge sometimes good luck.

 

[squirrels]

Don't worry, you're allowed to have a life. .)

You're not required to answer her calls/SMSes 24/7. Just say you were busy, your phone was shut off, etc, and talk to her maybe once every other day, or every third day. That's probably healthy.

Don't make your attention something she can get every time she calls for it. Give it to her when it's convenient for you, but don't put yourself in a position where you're jumping every time she calls you.

 

[Belgium_Freak]

Originally posted by squirrels
Don't worry, you're allowed to have a life. .)


Don't make your attention something she can get every time she calls for it. Give it to her when it's convenient for you, but don't put yourself in a position where you're jumping every time she calls you.

Right on track.

This is one of the time's that you have to be assertive, if she sends 10 sms a day, just don't reply. But do tell her that you don't like it when she does that. Make it crystal clear. If she calls you 13 times a day, tell her not to. She's a human, she'll understand.