"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Don't be dependent on women at the club

skinnyguy

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This post is going to be similar to the "if your focus is women, you will fail at everything" post. Which by the way was one of the best threads of the year. :up:

It seems that some guys come back from the club disappointed they didn't get laid. THIS SHOULD NEVER HAPPEN. Your focus should be to have fun. That means drinking with your own friends and not worrying about random people who don't care about you.

My best night of recent times was in August of last year, when I was at XS at the Wynn with my bros. Did I have sex with an HB 10 that night? Nope. I just had a crazy good time being hysterical with my friends. It's nights like that you'll remember.

I see some guys posting about women's bad behavior at the club…but come on guys, You should know by now that women "have their guards up" at the club and will assume you're a douche even if you're not. So just stop. Realize that most women at the club are low quality (even if they are hot) and are not worthy of your time any way.

The best thing is to assume you won't go home with a girl and have no expectations at all. Clubs all in all are not very good places to meet women, but they can be great places to have fun nights with your friends. Go there for the right reason.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Mike32ct

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True. A mistake I used to make was "re-write history" based on whether I scored or not.

For example, if I had a boring, mediocre trip to say Vegas, but still managed to get laid, I would come home saying, "The trip was AWESOME- one of the best ever."

But if I had an otherwise fun time, met a lot people, drank, danced etc. but DIDN'T score, I would come home saying, "That trip sucked" lol.

The point is to always have fun. Poon is a bonus.
 

foreverAFC

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maybe you should stop hanging out at night clubs so much
 

PeasantPlayer

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I remember a night it was a reunion half guys half girls....no one got laid, but it truly was one of the best nights ever
 
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