"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Does anybody else have this problem?

Jerry Maguire

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For as long as I can remember, I've never lived 'in the moment'.

I've always set goals, written them out in detail, looked forward to achieving them, then barely ever taking the first step towards carrying them out.

When I'm at work, I look forward to going home, when I get home, I waste my time doing nothing.

It feels like I'm sleep walking through life.

The obvious help for this problem would be to 'get my ass in gear', yet I'm sure I'd put that off until tomorrow too :(

Does SoSuave have a resident shrink or something?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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LostAndConfused

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Take this with a grain of salt, but what I've found helpful is to find a youtube video or even a full movie that relates to whatever goal you set, where the character or person in the movie excels at it. It will inspire you to take the first step, which is always the hardest.

For example, I watch alot of UFC and that inspires me to keep training mma and muay thai
 

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It's easy to create many many grand plans and not carry any of them out thinking that there is not enough time to do them all. What you might want to do is plan one thing at a time and act on it. Don't plan anything else until you have achieve that one goal.
 

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Also, the key to goal setting is to come up with a system of your own of short term and long term goals. Your long term goals are what you dream of achieving (the grand plans L B mentioned), and your short term goals are "bite sized chunks" to help you break down the huge goal into a portion you can handle. I'll use lifting as an example:

Lets say your long term goal is to put on 40 pounds of muscle through resistance training.

Your short term goals should start easy but they should also help you. Maybe something like "Get to the gym 3 times this week." Thats a great starting short term goal. After time you can make the short term goals bigger, like say "Gain 1.5 lbs this week." Vary them up, maybe make a short term goal "This week, I want to lift higher on each set of bench press than I have before."

Short term goals get your asss in gear, and long term goals show that you cactually are living your life to the fullest :D
 
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