Docs - Pickups, Naturally. (IMO)

[Docs]

You go up to this girl, you bust on her, use ****y and funny, she looks like she's got some Interest Level (IL), but then...it drops and you're left standing there without a number...and a girl that wandered off.

I was talking over PM to someone, and I was credited with great advice and here it will be shared.

To overcome rejection, you must not fear it. To not fear rejection, you must not try to win.

Sounds like a contridiction doesn't it? We all want to win, so we take the risk and sometimes win, sometimes lose.

How can I guarentee a excellent success rate with girls. When you don't try to pick up.

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So instead of going overboard with ****y and funny and trying to touch her in hopes of creating that attraction..try this..

Be yourself. (to a degree)
That means...dont' act like a total retard and do the robot dance at any mention of computers, and don't act like a jackass when you don't have to.

(Start and Maintain a Conversation) and show some personality. I quote some of my advice.

Have no pressure, just like with your buddies (he shot the sh!t with them, being guys). I mean..don't act the same around a girl..but dont' put too much effort into something that doesn't require it. That's why things start to fail, relationships, plans, sarging.

You hear of those stories where people 'own' the club? It's not because they were trying to pick up every girl and were near successful in it, or even a few girls, cold approaching or whatever, it's because they didnt' care about the end result and let loose, and nature dictated the makeout sessions, the kino and flirting that the girls pulled.

Remember, be yourself.. You'll eventually be able to use C&F and your own personality together once you find the silver lining.

This brings me to point number 3.
Show some personality. Be natural
By try, I mean..don't do the C&f, mass touching, stuff like that, that's not NATURAL.

I'm trying to say to enjoy talking to girls, have some fun teasing them and dont' even bother with trying to pick up the number or closes. Just by talking to them, if it's a positive experience for both of you, then you feel better and they feel better. No matter, it's natural because you arne't stressing yourself to get this girls number. Natural is good IMO because to them, you don't want to pick them up, (tho in secert you do), you show a side of yourself that they pick and choose from, but you always maintain control because...you cannot be flinched by shattests or the like.

It all comes together in the end. ****y and funny isnt' everything, overused...it becomes lame and old. By being Natural like..if you are a natural ****y and funny person, then it appears unfaked because it's not overused.

In the end, by using your personality and incorporating C&F and all of that good stuff slowly, you can develop a personal style that can't be seen as faked, and you'll feel better because you never know where your conversations make take you. Oh, and you can't fail at picking up..because that isnt' the intention you display.

The day that she does the unexpected (right?), will be the day you relieze that you don't need all of these techniques to get her, when you got her yourself by having fun and not worrying about her interest level.

 

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[lets_do_this]

I agree. Girls can usually detect something that isnt natural.

This is true, but if you are naturally C+F or touchy, then by all means.. Go ahead.

Another good post Docs. I'm waiting for your next one.

 

[Docs]

An example of letting loose. - FR & Peacocking Example - syncmaster
Indirect Game (Patterns, PULines) VS Natural Game - Fully Explained and Detailed - Woodhaven *Absoulely WONDERFUL explaination*

 

[avrilishot]

wow pretty good advice.

 

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[The_Lifter]

I do have to say, this advice is quite true. On one girl lately, she shared something about her past which put me off her (at least initially). I lost any romantic interest in her right there but I still thought I'd talk to her, just like a bud. By doing this, not only has she made it blatantly clear I'm her ideal guy (indeed, she thinks I'm out of her league), but I've come to know what it is to truly 'kick it' with a woman without a goal in mind and I know apply this mindset to all my approaches. It helps me to 'lean back' more and just let it happen.