"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Do you Sweat During Sex?

bigneil

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I find that (especially) the first time I'm with a new girl (but also other times) I can work up a major sweat during sex (when it goes past 15 minutes). But I noticed that porn stars hardly ever seem to sweat. Do they keep them under heavy AC?

Question 1: Is sweating during sex normal? Or am I just some sweaty dude?

Question 2: Can a woman who is highly attracted to you ever think you have BO? Won't they like your natural scent if they are the one for you? I'm into organic and don't believe in deodorant but some people have issues with people who don't intentionally mask their natural scent with volatile organic substances (that are often highly toxic such as any perfume).
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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It depends how hot it is. If its 70 plus out on a warm summer night, then phuck yeah. I can't imagine a girls could be turned off by that. Don't overanalyze. Once your c8ck is in her cooter, shell be turned on by anything you do, short of taking a dump on her
 

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Yes, I sometimes sweat, even had sweat drip on a girl before. They never said anything. I think your imagine is running loose!
 

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I used to sweat all the time, until I started running and skipping.

I had one chick tell me it was her greatest fear a guy would sweat while having sex and it would drop into her open mouth. She would lie there with one hand over her mouth, heh.. but it never stopped her (or me).
 

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ATX1001 said:
it was her greatest fear a guy would sweat while having sex and it would drop into her open mouth.
Meanwhile, the same guy dropping semen in her open anus was actually encouraged.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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One of my girlfriends told me it was a turn on when I'd sweat during the no pants dance.

Guess each girl is different.
 

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bigneil said:
I find that (especially) the first time I'm with a new girl (but also other times) I can work up a major sweat during sex (when it goes past 15 minutes). But I noticed that porn stars hardly ever seem to sweat. Do they keep them under heavy AC?
Porn is also heavily edited. It's not one long scene. It takes hours of shooting to get 20 minutes worth of material to edit together.

That's why they have "fluffers" in between scenes to keep the dudes hard for hours. It's practically torture.

Question 1: Is sweating during sex normal? Or am I just some sweaty dude?
Sweating during any kind of vigorous exercise is normal. If you didn't sweat you would overheat and die very quickly. Heatstroke.

Can a woman who is highly attracted to you ever think you have BO?
That depends if you have BO or not.

I'm into organic and don't believe in deodorant but some people have issues with people who don't intentionally mask their natural scent with volatile organic substances (that are often highly toxic such as any perfume).
Of course it's toxic. It's not supposed to be ingested. It's applied to the skin and clothes in very very light amounts to create a scent. Nothing more.

As far as deodorant you shouldn't need it usually. If you smell awful it's due to bacteria on the skin. Either because you're washing too much and removing the protective oils from your skin too much, or you're not washing enough and your skin gets too dirty and they have things to eat.

When I mean washing, I mean with chemicals. A rinse after a vigorous workout is encouraged. Scrubbing your skin with soap several times a day is strongly NOT recommended.
 

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My girlfriend wipes my forehead when I'm sweating so it doesn't get in my eyes. I love it. She is always there to accommodate me to try making things more convenient, even during sex.
 

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I burn up and sweat like mad during sex, but I find the woman I'm with usually gets very sweaty and out of breath too.

I guess it depends how you're doing it. If you're slow and sensual, then sweating is probably not an issue, but if you're going crazy on each other, it's naturally going to happen.

I always try to have some water on hand because I get serioulsy dehydrated.

As for wearing deoderant, it's probably a good idea. This paranoia that it's toxic is wildly exaggerated. It's not going to kill you or give you serious diseases if you spray/roll a bit under your arms now and again. I wouldn't dream of going out with a woman without some deoderant and designer fragrance. I even carry a tester bottle with me.
 

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I sweat during sex. My gf loves long sessions, so we're usually going at it for at least an hour. I usually work up a sweat.

Also, I find that women like a little bit of man odor. Remember what pheromones are? BTW, that doesn't mean don't wear deodorant. You don't wanna smell like an old man.

Moved to AE...
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Girls love the sweat. All the hormones in the air turns them on more!
 
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