Basically have been trying really hard with online dating. talked to a lot of girls had some flakes too. I actually write really good emails from reading there profiles. just haven't had any luck. don't have a lot of friends to go out with so its kind of hard to meet girls. What do you guys recommend me to do to get out there and actually meet girls or improve my online game .
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Do you guys acutally meet girls trough online
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What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
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Cloudtopsun2100
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online girls are absolutely horrible nowadays with all the white knights flocking there since they are too scared to open girls in real life (clubs are not real life). This results in about 150-300 messages a week for girls which increases their flaky factor. You'll want to send out copy paste messages to girls after putting up your best, most youthful looking pics and then go to bookstores and coffee shops as well as supermarkets to day game. Keep that up and you'll have plates soon.
here are some rules to keep in mind.
1. Looks are very important. The better your profile pictures the more responses you will get.
2. It's a numbers game. And in most cases it's just not worth the time to write all of them a unique e-mail.
3. It's a numbers GAME. yes a Game so don't take it so serious. Think of funny first messages, use cheesy pickup lines. just something weird to get an initial response. (edit: if you get a b!tchy response. consider that blessing. You saved yourself from dealing with a woman with a curling iron up her *ss)
4. Get them off the internet as fast as possible. Get a Number and setup a date. An action date is best or check her Profile for any date ideas she might like. if nothing, choose something simple..go for coffee, drinks or some ice-cream. This is also for you to check her out cuz PROFILE PICTURES LIE!!
5. Don't become her text buddy these girls tend to be on social media 24/7 so it's easy to fall into her group of text orbiters
1. Looks are very important. The better your profile pictures the more responses you will get.
2. It's a numbers game. And in most cases it's just not worth the time to write all of them a unique e-mail.
3. It's a numbers GAME. yes a Game so don't take it so serious. Think of funny first messages, use cheesy pickup lines. just something weird to get an initial response. (edit: if you get a b!tchy response. consider that blessing. You saved yourself from dealing with a woman with a curling iron up her *ss)
4. Get them off the internet as fast as possible. Get a Number and setup a date. An action date is best or check her Profile for any date ideas she might like. if nothing, choose something simple..go for coffee, drinks or some ice-cream. This is also for you to check her out cuz PROFILE PICTURES LIE!!
5. Don't become her text buddy these girls tend to be on social media 24/7 so it's easy to fall into her group of text orbiters
Don't be a faggot who spends hours every day trying to pull an HB 4 off POF.
Online dating is an enormous waste of time. If you're good looking enough to pull chicks online, you'll do fine in the real world and will probably avoid some of the entitled crazy ones too.
Online dating is an enormous waste of time. If you're good looking enough to pull chicks online, you'll do fine in the real world and will probably avoid some of the entitled crazy ones too.
I think so too. Its just I don't go out that much or have many friends to go out with. so it is kinda hard to find one. Usually if I find one I get shot down. One thing I have learned from here is I am not afraid of rejection anymore it doesn't bother me if I get shot down in the end its there loss. Wish I just had more chances to meet girls than I could probably get one.
I get tons of views on match some replies some want to be pen pals and there's are ugos too.
How do you guy think I should change to actually meet girls in real life?
I will keep trying the online thing will redo my pictures maybe have a better chance. Thanks for the help.
I get tons of views on match some replies some want to be pen pals and there's are ugos too.
How do you guy think I should change to actually meet girls in real life?
I will keep trying the online thing will redo my pictures maybe have a better chance. Thanks for the help.
Going out to meet women is always a given, but in 2015 you'd be a fool to miss online dating.
Everyone has a phone, the social taboo of "online dating" has diminished a great deal and will continue to do so. A lot of these apps list people by location, so just shoot out some messages to girls around you, and you could even meet up with them right then. I think there will be more and more of this type of social networking like meetup in years to come.
If you're the antisocial type that doesnt like going to a bar and pretending to want to be there (like myself), online is an unmatched venue for finding girls (unless you're in a larger city and can just go walk around the street or whatever).
Everyone has a phone, the social taboo of "online dating" has diminished a great deal and will continue to do so. A lot of these apps list people by location, so just shoot out some messages to girls around you, and you could even meet up with them right then. I think there will be more and more of this type of social networking like meetup in years to come.
If you're the antisocial type that doesnt like going to a bar and pretending to want to be there (like myself), online is an unmatched venue for finding girls (unless you're in a larger city and can just go walk around the street or whatever).
I've had some good success with it. Pictures are key as well as a catchy first email.GS750 said:
The email SHOULD be personalized. But it shouldn't be long or wordy or boring. Just one or two lines that show some amount of wit/humor and shows that you read her profile.
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I don't really agree with the whole cheesy pick up line BS. I think it's better to be more upfront. Start a conversation, keep your responses short and simple. Never straight up ask her for sex though, that's the worst thing you can do. Only a chick with dirt low self esteem would respond to that.
Try to arrange a hang out the first time you talk to her, and don't message girls you have no intention of f*cking that same night. The sooner the better. Just offer something like having a couple drinks while watching Netflix. Or slowly escalate into asking her to hang out, without coming off as too aggressive.
Every girl already knows netflix is code for "sex." If she says yes to this, you know you're in. But you have to make it seem as natural as possible. It should flow easily into the conversation so it doesn't seem forced. Then just remain your cool calm self and arrange when to meet up. Again, the sooner the better. If you try to get her number first and text her for 3 weeks before meeting up and making a move, you're seriously wasting your time. The entire process should of talking to meeting up should take a matter of minutes or hours, not days or weeks.
*However if you're on tinder let's say, and you matched a girl 2 months ago but haven't talked to her, she's still fair game. Just don't message her until you actually plan to see her, or you won't be as successful.
You can also post moments that will attract certain demographic. For example if you posted a picture of alcohol with a movie/tv in background, with a catchy phrase asking if anyone wanted to join, then the girls who "like" that are by far the most likely DTF. Of course doing this excessively makes you come off as needy and codependent, so don't rely on this. But if you're experimenting with how to be successful online (and particularly tinder), then these are some tricks you can use along the way to help you.
**Also, re-reading tinder messages from the girls I actually WAS successful with, all had the same thing in common. I was cool, calm, collected, mostly serious but still playful. In other words it was basically how I text a girl I've already been seeing. Remember you always have to keep text game, even online. The longer your messages, the quicker and more often you talk to her, the less attractive you will appear in her eyes.
Yes with tinder you have to take extra risks since that's what it's for. But acting like some phony with a bunch of scripted pick up lines may make her laugh for a minute, but I doubt it will help you get laid. Remember girls like guys who don't need them, and they want a sturdy rock to hold in the gusts of wind.
You always have to present yourself as a high value person. And simply put, high value people do not go rehearsing ridiculously cheesy pickup lines and pedestalizing women in hopes of getting in their pants. High value men know they are special, and if a girl doesn't take his initial bait then he sees it as her loss and can move on. Most importantly, a high value guy is always in check of his emotions. He doesn't let praise nor blame change his demeanor, because he knows who he is and nothing outside of him or no women can change that.
Try to arrange a hang out the first time you talk to her, and don't message girls you have no intention of f*cking that same night. The sooner the better. Just offer something like having a couple drinks while watching Netflix. Or slowly escalate into asking her to hang out, without coming off as too aggressive.
Every girl already knows netflix is code for "sex." If she says yes to this, you know you're in. But you have to make it seem as natural as possible. It should flow easily into the conversation so it doesn't seem forced. Then just remain your cool calm self and arrange when to meet up. Again, the sooner the better. If you try to get her number first and text her for 3 weeks before meeting up and making a move, you're seriously wasting your time. The entire process should of talking to meeting up should take a matter of minutes or hours, not days or weeks.
*However if you're on tinder let's say, and you matched a girl 2 months ago but haven't talked to her, she's still fair game. Just don't message her until you actually plan to see her, or you won't be as successful.
You can also post moments that will attract certain demographic. For example if you posted a picture of alcohol with a movie/tv in background, with a catchy phrase asking if anyone wanted to join, then the girls who "like" that are by far the most likely DTF. Of course doing this excessively makes you come off as needy and codependent, so don't rely on this. But if you're experimenting with how to be successful online (and particularly tinder), then these are some tricks you can use along the way to help you.
**Also, re-reading tinder messages from the girls I actually WAS successful with, all had the same thing in common. I was cool, calm, collected, mostly serious but still playful. In other words it was basically how I text a girl I've already been seeing. Remember you always have to keep text game, even online. The longer your messages, the quicker and more often you talk to her, the less attractive you will appear in her eyes.
Yes with tinder you have to take extra risks since that's what it's for. But acting like some phony with a bunch of scripted pick up lines may make her laugh for a minute, but I doubt it will help you get laid. Remember girls like guys who don't need them, and they want a sturdy rock to hold in the gusts of wind.
You always have to present yourself as a high value person. And simply put, high value people do not go rehearsing ridiculously cheesy pickup lines and pedestalizing women in hopes of getting in their pants. High value men know they are special, and if a girl doesn't take his initial bait then he sees it as her loss and can move on. Most importantly, a high value guy is always in check of his emotions. He doesn't let praise nor blame change his demeanor, because he knows who he is and nothing outside of him or no women can change that.
I think I am getting the views 4-5 girls a day. Most pretty hot. Recently changed my profile pics but don't think they are that great. I think this is my problem.
What is the best type of profile pics I should use?
I was also thinking of getting a job at the gym all the guys that work there are always talking to girls big time? I see slot of girls there when I'm working out but they seem to flock to the counter guy.
What is the best type of profile pics I should use?
I was also thinking of getting a job at the gym all the guys that work there are always talking to girls big time? I see slot of girls there when I'm working out but they seem to flock to the counter guy.