"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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do you ever feel really self conscious picking up in the daytime?

big weezy

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my main focus of my sarging for the past year has been coffee shop pick ups in starbucks etc and as i do it more and more i feel very self conscious and wary that the people around me know what i'm doing or the staff who see me day in day out looking around or changing tables to sit have figured out what i am doing.

so far i haven't picked up or tried it consistently enough for them to hopefully notice but i feel very wary nonetheless. they say you should go there with a purpose in mind, like bring a book or your laptop to look as if you're there doing something and not solely to pick up. but i have a tendency to look up and around a lot scanning the area.

the thing is, sometimes my closest starbucks is empty so i go to the other 1s in the vicinity. there are about 8 in a 2-3 square mile vicinity and i may pop into 1 then another in quick succession. i'm very wary this appears creepy and odd and it's starting to affect my psyche a bit.

does anyone else have this problem or found ways to make it look less like i'm sarging?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I would say definitely bring a book or a laptop for sure. If you think about it, it's a win win situation. You can sarge, and read or get some work done in the mean time.. Honestly, fvck the dorks working at those places. It's all about you dude. Do your thing.
 

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I've thought about this, other people eaves dropping on your game. Is it something that is going to be on your mind, yeah but odds are they're just jealous and don't have the balls to do what you're doing.

By the way, if you are chilling there with a book, you're going to be there for a while. The majority of people who frequent a starbucks are in and out within 5 minutes. So if someone should hear a girl reject you, who cares in another 5 minutes the whole place is full with a different group of people.
 

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Maybe you shouldn't be too obvious, but ultimately you have to be honest with yourself that you're here to do what you do. Even if somebody calls you out you can say "yes, i'm bored, so just hanging around and maybe meet cool people". And then, especially if you have success sometimes, who would hate on you?
 

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the thing is when you do this day in day out at your local starbucks and ones near the vicinity it becomes obvious what you're doing. for instance today, i got a hot milf's number and it was pretty clear what i was doing.. at the time of number closing there weren't people around so it didn't make much difference (i f'd up though and asked about the husband rather than concentrate on creating attraction regardless it was good practise)

when im by myself all the time looking up and around (remember it's not as simple as sitting down and picking up) there are various seats and i have to selective where i sit, as i need a table next to a HB not 1 which is like across the room for her, plus also if she spots me checking her out and then later i move next to her sit she'll be wary i'm going to try it on when i talk to her.. this is difficult to master successfully but can prove fruitful.

the bonuses are u get to see what they really look like during the day with less make up, better lights etc. sometimes it creates a more natural way of meeting someone as you're not in a loud dark night club tryna make small talk.

tho im not 100% sure whether the girls realise im tryna pick her up even when i go for the number.. a lot of the times she may think 'oh ive made a new friend'

most people in this area are international students and new to the area so looking to make friends rather than a potential partner. any suggestions how i could demonstrate DHV's during the day?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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