Do you ask or do you tell?

[aix237]

In general do you ask a girl or do you tell a girl? Like if i call up this girl is it better to say
"we should meet up tonight."
or
"do you wanna meet up tonight?"
or
"if you wanna come meet up with me call me."

Which way is more successful?

 

[check_mate_kid_uk]

I would say you should assume she wants to and say lets meet up, just as you would with a freind.

 

[The Bad Ass Canadian]

yeah, I'll tell a girl when I'm getting her number or when I'm taking her out.

I'll say "hey, give me your number and I'll call you later this week."

And when I'm asking her out, I'll say "let's meet up at XXXX, 8pm." or something along those lines. It always works and if she has other plans then she'll decline and counter offer... and if there's no counter offer I know where i stand and throw away her digits. simple as that.

 

[Docs]

Never tell, always show.
Always assume she likes you.
When it's a date, tell, never ask.
--
To add an examplar:
"Are you doing anything tonight?"
"No.."
"Alright, we're going on a date."

(I am very open about dates, everytime I hang out with any girl, it's a date)

=), works every time.

 

[Doggystyle]

In general do you ask a girl or do you tell a girl? Like if i call up this girl is it better to say
"we should meet up tonight."
or
"do you wanna meet up tonight?"
or
"if you wanna come meet up with me call me."

Which way is more successful?

The first one you are leading, the second 2 you are putting the ball in her court so she can lead taking the less dominant role, always lead

Another thing you can do is a trick I learned from sales, probably been mentioned on here before too. Assume the sale...

Already assume she is coming out and say shall we go to the pub or come round to mine and "watch a dvd"

 

[realsmoothie]

I'm learning how to better do this, it's surprisingly easy.

It makes it easier on the girl when you make your question specific. If you ask "what are you doing this weekend" she has to give all sorts of details and/or has to make stuff up.

But if you say "come out to this show with me tomorrow night" she can either say yes or no. If she says no, she'll give a reason (usually she's busy). Then, you try again a while later. She says no this time, maybe it's a clue that you're not "in there".