Do you actually want to get laid?

[djokovic77]

It occurred to me that I'm not sure how many guys out there really want to get some. When I go out looking for some, it obviously seems like I want some...but I'm not so sure all the time.

I think a lot of us are in conflict, stuck wrestling with some issue from our past and almost try to recreate the scene. I know when I don't sort of 'mentally masturbate', and I am really in fact horny, I always score.

Of course its not true for everyone, but I really think we should consider our intentions in sarging each time.

 

[Eternal_water]

well yes, I must say I do.

 

[djokovic77]

What Im saying is a lot of times we think we do, but maybe we're not really willing to do certain things in our power than could make it more likely we did. We're not willing to do the squeeze for the juice. I think a lot of guys are in a sub conscious struggle.

 

[bigneil]

Sex is overrated IMO. 1% of the time it's 100 times as good, but the average is just... average.

My main conquest with women is to seduce them to the point of kissing them. Then I feel as though they are an option for me to exercise or drop. Maybe 1 in 5 are worth taking further. Because once you introduce sex into the equation there is the messy, risky factor, and the relationship factor.

A lot of it is the thrill of the chase. I mainly just want to know I can have sex versus really have sex.

 

[sstype]

I dont always go out sarging to get laid....if i did id be hella p155ed off a lot of the time. Nah, i go out sarging for fun, also to keep in shape mentally in the game, and if I come across something special i will try to get some...however it is not my overall priority when i go out. If it happens fine, but as ive got enough notches on my bed post it isnt a massive priority as it would have been when i was young.
In fact if it is your priority it will become counter productive, as women smell it a mile off as desperation.

I feel exactly the same. This is the correct mindset to have. Good post.

 

[PapiChulo]

I am looking for an adventure of some sort, and companionship.... always hoping to wake up with a story to tell.

 

[djokovic77]

I do better when I really want it tho tbh. Im good at not seeming desperate. Most girls tell me they thought I was an a&&hole and a jerk before they talked to me. I guess I look very disinterested.

When I really want it, I kind of sublimate my hatred of things and circumstances to get it. I guess Im kind of like Patrick Bateman

 

[cstrife32]

I think you addressed a point that a lot of guys miss. A lot of guys have so much anxiety from never having been with a girl that when push comes to shove and they actually have to "make moves" they freeze up because something in their subconscious is holding them back. I think the best way to tackle this is to build confidence in another area of your life so facing your fears is not as difficult, or take it in baby steps. I.E. Smile at a random girl, talk to a random girl, flirt with a random girl, etc.

 

[Eternal_water]

tbh honest I'm finding this thread ridiculous,

yeah, I'm reading sosuave because I don't want to get laid, wtf?!?!

 

[djokovic77]

lots of guys want it, but not as much as they want to engage in other negative behaviors they are attached to. That's my point. when you want it on a raw, animalistic level, you are more successful.

 

[Ihateinitiatingalot7]

lots of guys want it, but not as much as they want to engage in other negative behaviors they are attached to. That's my point. when you want it on a raw, animalistic level, you are more successful.

we just have to avoid coming on too strong, trying too hard, desperate, or creepy, etc.