Do u tell ur GF about past girls?

[comic_relief]

i dont think RT is simply saying that she cant "handle" this type of conversation.

i think the point is just that...THERE IS NO POINT.

ask yourself this question.

if you girl is self confident and secure, what need does she have to ask you this type of question??

IMO a self confident and secure women wouldnt care how many ppl etc etc. she would already KNOW that it is useless information that she need not obtain.

your thoughts....

Usually, my girlfriend and I will talk about the really humorous times with exes (usually sexual).

We don't mind ever talking about them because my girlfriend had an ex that lasted seven minutes on a good day, while I had an ex that was psychotic.

They maybe useless stories but they are a part of us and can be used as very funny time fillers for stories.

I'm sure that every single one of us has a great story that is sexual (don't make it a funny sex thread).

In utitlity, it does not mean anything, but in a joking type situation it is invaluable, especially since most of the time the conversations that my friends and I have are sexual.

Comic, you should be proud of yourself. Self assurance is seldom used as a qualifier when sarging.

Exactly!! Although a part of gaining a better understanding of one another may include trading specific ideas about relationships which a past experience may be used as an example, a secure couple will seldom ask for the gory details of past relationships gone bad.

However if you want to hear something truly gory, there could be times where a secure couple may trade stories about the truly memorable good times which they've had in previous relationships. They recognize that those experiences has a direct correlation to what works in their current relationship.

Thank you Francisco,

I'm not asking for exact details, but it can be used as a time filler with stories.

What you managed to say in that last quote is what my girlfriend and I do. We will talk about where, when, and how we had sex/fooled around. It makes me laugh my @$$ off at some of her stories. She has also had a good laugh at most of my stories.

comic_relief

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

Dude, trust me, this will come back to bite you in the ass. The first fight you have, I guarantee you she'll use all of that against you. A confident, secure woman doesn't need to ask you about past lovers, she expects you've been with other people. Women who press a guy for this information are collecting stamps; they're seeking confirmation of their suspicions. You may be with the exception to the rule, but there is simply no better predictor of this kind of woman than this behavior. Best to err on the side of discretion - if for no other reason than it keeps you in control of the frame. Far too many AFCs suffer from verbal diarrhea and barf out their life story on the restaurant table on the first date and their sexual past (or lack thereof) is usually included in this.

 

[Quiksilver]

Far too many AFCs suffer from verbal diarrhea and barf out their life story on the restaurant table on the first date and their sexual past (or lack thereof) is usually included in this.

Guilty as charged

As he said, don't say more than she has to know unless its in your best interest to tell her. If she wants to know, then be vague and don't show her all your cards at once.

Also, girls WANT a guy who has been around and has experience. I can't think of one time when I was a virgin and I let slip that I was to a girl who was interested in me, that didn't end badly.