"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Do I need to improve my look? (with pic)

thechosenone2190

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Please be brutally honest. If there's nothing wrong with my appearance, please say so. If I can improve my appearance in any way, please say so. Also, if possible, could you please state the extent to which your suggestion would improve my appearance? eg. minor vs major improvement

http://img403.imageshack.us/i/dscn5005z.jpg/

Thanks in advance
 
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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SoSuaveDude

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your honestly fine in my opinion. However, i will say that you should consider bulking up a bit to be at your physical peak. A toned body always gets to the majority of women.
 

PectoralisMajor

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YES, hit the gym NOW and bulk up a bit. get some darker jeans too maybe. consider contact lenses?
 

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PectoralisMajor said:
looks like you got a date with SOSuaveDude if you bulk up ha.
Lol! quit being homo, im just helping the man out!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Jariel

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Agree with the others. Bulking up a bit will be like a miracle transformation for you. Just make sure you do your research on working out and nutrition first because so many people who try to get in shape fail because they're so ill informed.

Nothing wrong with glasses, but I found that wearing contacts helped overcome the geek/nerd stereotype.
 

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looks fine. The Glasses are Dorky, but I have seen dorky guys get some hot girls. You have to do the chump and chomp where the girls think you are a chump and you lore them close, then you **** them
 

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MMM, interesting. Everyone seems to be of Oriental or teenage distraction. There seems to be a pattern.
 

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Toned body and glasses can do wonders if you get it just right, though.
 

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will +10 lbs hit the mark? im currently 6ft 1/2in tall, 180-185lbs

thanks for the feedback so far

with glasses, exactly how do i pull it off with girls? how do i "get it just right?" how does this compare to if i lose the glasses?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I'd say 1) gym and 2) contacts

Any other problems are related to your game not your look
 

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You look average. That's terrible. You don't stand out as hideous or out very out of style, and you don't stand out as good looking or stylish. You are joe schmo.

Get some contacts, take some pics in how you dress when you go out and then let us judge that.


Listen to this as well.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EDk0M0UnmAw


You really don't have a direction with your look, show some pics of your real look.


Check this thread.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=180825
 
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OK, no one is giving you a very good assessment. I can do that.

You've expressed the desire for brutal honesty, so don't complain.

First of all, your glasses. Buy contacts AND a really cool pair of eyeglass frames, I personally Dita's optical collection (http://www.dita.com/collections/optical.shtml). The cool stereotype of eyeglasses is that they're for really smart guys. You're Asian and wearing that type of eyeglass is congruent with norms. You'll want contacts for when you go out at night.

Second, your clothes. Throw away all of your graphic T's, you're too old for that crap - they convey immaturity and a lack of classical masculinity. Needless to say, you should always aim for classical masculinity. To the point, don't wear cheap denim. Spend the cash on a good pair. If you need help with denim visit Denimology http://www.denimology.com/mens_denim/). But be careful not to get too flamboyant. Get some solid basics. Believe me, from someone who is wise about their cash, a good solid pair of pricier denim will last you very long and attract more women than a pair of Wranglers. If this bothers you, then you haven't thrown away your misconceptions about seducing women.

Third, do work out. Don't obsess about your weight/bulk either though. That's almost worse than being a little skinny or chubby, almost. Just try to be healthy and active more in general, it WILL make you happier. If you're happier you're more attractive.

Fourth, keep your hair in check. I could be wrong here but it looks like you're thinning near your forehead. If that's the case, don't be afraid to do something bold like fair your hair at a barber shop with a 3 or 4 on top and a 1 on the sides. It's super short but kept and will a hell of a lot cooler than simply thin, frontal baldness.

Other than that, your tooth look OK, hah.

Good luck!
 

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I don't see anything wrong that age won't fix. Enjoy being ridiculously young, and think of all the ridiculously young women you can get that I'd get arrested for even trying to get!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Nothing wrong with glasses, I only use contacts when I go to a club (mainly because it's annoying to get beer on the glasses, or they can get foggy) and can still attract girls. But you have to get a different frame, one that is more stylish.
Also change your clothes, stop wearing t-shirts, full stop. Get some buttoned shirts and for on top of that a blazer or pull-over if it's cold (no hoodies or college sweaters please...). If it is really hot out, I don't know where you live, I personally still prefer shirts with the arms rolled up a bit (even though I have no problem wearing just a long sleeve either with 5 or 30 degree celsius). If you want short sleeve at all cost, get polo's. It depends what fits on you, but I personally like La Martina, but la coste could also work for you.

Last thing, consider your shoes and coat. I don't know where you are from, but a lot of Americans go wrong there. Never, ever, wear tennis/running shoes. If you want to wear sneakers get puma speedcats, or preferably ones that look like more stylish shoes and are partially made out of leather (Clark, Levi's, Hugo Boss all make them). Apart from that, a pair of shoes that are both solid and stylish, not the sort of hiking shoes some people wear.
Lastly, your coat. Consider getting one of the the semi-long black winter ones with a wool/kashmir outside, I think it will look good on you and make you seem more mature, stylish and confident. If you want gloves get them with a suede or leather outside, no ski gloves.
 
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