"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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*DJ's - What does being an alpha mean to you?*

Dgwizdal

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What does being ALPHA mean in terms of every day life, dating, and long term relationships to you personally? Sure the *alpha state of being* is the groundworks for a strong inner game but what are your personal beliefs on balance, control, and application in the real world? Feel free to answer one or all of the above or take this whichever way you'd like to elaborate. :cool:
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Realizing that life is not just about surviving, it is about winning. And refusing to come in second place in any aspect that you have control over. (Relationships, body, financially, etc.)
 

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I firmly believe that "alpha" is a position, and not a mindset. The "alpha mindset" as described in forums like this is simply a "masculine mindset" IMO. This is the mindset you should have if you are a man, and it can help give you a chance of reaching an alpha position.

The alpha male is literally the top, most dominant male. Women want the top male, the best male they can get. This gives them bragging rights and they can share in the fruits of his power and dominance. Women literally want the top male, not just the male who thinks he is the top male.

PUAs try to teach you to think like alphas, to mimic alpha behaviors. This can be effective, if it's congruent with your personality, your life, or your actual situation. Thing is, I believe there are a lot of different types of males who are in alpha positions, so the PUAs' attempt to isolate their mindset and boil them down into one personality is a bit of an approximation.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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