"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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DJs on Jealousy and dating: what's the limit?

SamMalone

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In the span of one year, girls I've dated:

-One guy sent me text after text after text about how my girl was a tease and a b****. He finally stopped two months after I broke up with her

-One guy pushed a girl down and beat her up, stole her phone and now has my address

-One guy came up to my work and threatened to kick my ass because I stole his girl

-One guy was secretly married, and his wife found out and went crazy and went after my then girlfriend

THAT is why you don't let the girl have guy friends. Nothing to do with jealousy, it's because it causes problems and it is DANGEROUS, for you and especially the girl. These girls either thinks it fun to lead guy "Friends" on or they are oblivious, but these guys get too attached and can do some damage.

Are there exceptions? Are some guys decent and want to be friends? I'm sure, but I'm not taking that risk and the girl shouldn't either. And if she wants to, I walk.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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