"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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DJs, how do you expand your social circle?

dudewut

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1st: I am an immigrant (got here like 3 years ago) but I have been exposed to American media so much in my home country that I dont have an accent, I get compliments all the time.

I want to expand BEYOND college. And most people I know do not bring up introducing me to their high school friends. And I do not want to bring it up because....well I cant just say "hey introduce me to your other friends" most likely they will just make an excuse as to why not (although i havent tried asking yet...hmmm)

1 thing I know might work would be to get a job outside of school. There are a couple of GNCs in my town, in the nice part of town too where the hot, yuppie-type girls are at, you know the single, maybe mid-twenties, has her own fairly high paying job kind of girl.

So yeah how do you meet friends outside of school/college?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Vice

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I have the opposite problem; I want to expand my social circle INTO college, and that's been challenging for me. It's like a glass wall.

There is a specific ebook that I can reccomend to you that is KILLER, but I'm at work and i can't remember the name. PM me and I'll send the name when I get home.
 

synergy1

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I am 30 and still have friends in college, so 21+. Thats a 9 year difference for the people who don't want to do the math ;)

I'll be the first to say I am lucky. My social circle is very active. A few compete in sporting events professionally, others travel a lot. Most of us play sports, know people in the city, and keep in touch with EVERYONE. I could meet up with people in san fransisco, spain, france, and Serbia. Some people will be more than willing to stay in touch, others will not. Focus on those who are more friendly.

Okay enough of that. The first thing you have to know how to meet friends is get out there and do what you love. This is the easiest way to be social. You won't make friends with everyone in a group, but all you need are one or two people near your age. I play hockey and am friends with kids who do the same. I can join a co ed league, dominate the scoresheet ( ha ha), than go out for drink after if I chose. You could do the same. For example if I ever moved to new zealand or Australia, I would find a rugby league and join it immediatly - or after I get a good health insurance plan!

Another possible way is to do non traditional jobs or events. Apply for a barback position. Go to a salsa class. My friends say salsa classes are full of beautiful women. Pick up a new hobby, network from there. My buddy picked up winter sports and will actively seek new people to go climbing with. Its funny watching him talk to guys like they are women trying to get their numbers.

Making good friends, and a good social circle is hard. An element of luck needs to be there. Get yourself out there the best you can. F-ebooks. Get your ass out there and start enjoying life!
 

SamTheHobit

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This is a major problem i am having at the moment.
Currently I have zero friends.
So a few days ago I decided it's time for change and its time to change now.
Fvck it im tierd of staying home on weekend nights fvck it im tierd of having no one to chat to.

So I decided im joining a sports club to make some friends..I have always wanted to play table tennis.. I give the guy a call rude as ever and he tells me theres no room for begginers! Fvck it!!

After this phone call I was extremely demotivated.

I think to myself Fvck it!! Im not giving up, Ive always wanted to play baseball I phone the guy extremely friendly and helpfull.. Guess what? First practice Is sunday.

Ive been chatting to a few guys at gym trying to expand my social circle. Im not giving up and I will make friends. And theres no 'Ifs' or 'buts' about it.

The lesson is never give up and persivere.

Haha just wanted to share that story.
 
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