"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
DJ with Braces?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
It may not be the look but purely because having braces makes you lose confidence due to the fact they make your face look like T1.
All I can say is after I take them off, WATCHOUT!
It looks like I'll be getting braces too. Will be wearing em for 18 months and then retainers at night for 5 years after that (how gay). Anyway, I'm curious, would it mess up the whole process if I decide to take off my braces on certain days because I'm out to meet women?
AFC-Murdaz
Senior Don Juan
braces are literally glued onto your teeth, you wear them like forever until the doc decide it's time to take it off
Abbott
Master Don Juan
I've never had them and I never will, but I've heard things.
So many negatives:
- Expensive. I don't know what the cost is but even if it's -$1,000 (i.e. being given $1,000) it's still too much because:
- Painful
- You look terrible.
- Another unnecessary doctor in your life. I think the doctor for that is called an orthodontist, different from a dentist.
- Everything gets stuck in your teeth.
- Retainers are evil.
I don't care how crooked my teeth are, or how messed up they are. I'm not doing that. Luckily for me, my teeth are pretty good to begin with. But even if they become very crooked later when I'm older I'll just let it be,
My Dad's teeth are very crooked, but he doesn't let that bother him at all.
Hm...I hope it never happens but if I lose a tooth perhaps I should get a silver or possibly platinum (do they have those?) tooth. That can look good with the right person.
Ben
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
THA REALNESS
Banned
AFC-Murdaz
Senior Don Juan
btw, braces don't hurt... that much once you get used to it
In America, land of the "Free", great teeth are a must. You see more people with great teeth than people with messed up one's. When u see a person with bad teeth, u think "wow, he should do something about it". Trust me, ive had bad teeth for 18 months, and even though i was doing pretty good, there was always this fear of people looking down on me becuase of my teeth.
When everyone is laughing and smiling for a picture, u are gonna be the one standing there with your mouth shut, looking like a dumbass.... trust me. braces are great. Even tho the pain is a b1Tch at first, once u get over it its awesome.
they make some new braces that you can take off and all. only wear at night etc. They make some that u cant really see, my cousin had them almost couldnt tell. i had braces when i was like 14 or so and hated them . im now 21 and my teeth are amazing as hell. I dont mind smiling at all, cause there perfectly striaght and gleaming white.
Abbott
Master Don Juan
I am? How so? Because I personally don't think teeth braces are necessary?
Perhaps. Frankly, I don't think about the appearance of others' teeth. Like I said earlier, my father has crooked teeth, but it hasn't bothered him any. And I don't think he should do anything about his teeth. My teeth aren't bad and while I do have a very small and slight overbite, it's hard to notice unless you look hard (which most people don't).
I don't think about others teeth or the appearance. What's the point when it's hard to even notice in the first place? Shoes are easier to notice, and I don't even see those most of the time.
Get over it. Don't let something like that bother you. How about those people who have a big mole on their face? What can they do about it? "Bad" teeth aren't as bad.
Looking bad? Doubtful. Perhaps you're different, but I look better if my teeth do not show. If I show my teeth I look like a freak.
And from what I've heard about the pain, nothing is worth that. Pain like that should be avoided and reserved for disasterous accidents.
Ben
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
It is aconfidence issue, but do u not agree that americans make smile quite a huge character in one's persona?
The pain lasts for a week tops, after u get braces fixed up, yes its a helluva thing, but reards are much better.
Abbott
Master Don Juan
$7,000?? OMG! Two brace jobs ($14,000) and that's enough money for a somewhat decent car.
Ben
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Bettering myself and travelling on the road to becoming a DJ is the whole reason I got braces. Please don't tell me that by getting braces I screwed myself over.
Apollo_Jordan
Don Juan
there F***ing awsome. its like a thin cap that goes over the entire tooth to make them straighter and it filled in all my gaps. they last for about 15 years and they never stain. i got the whole front of my grill done, 5 veneers. i can still eat anything and my grill looks macked out! best $4000 ive ever spent.L777
Master Don Juan
Where did you see the Brits your'e talking about? Austin Powers?
Its just like me saying all americans are fat...a sweeping generalisation.
Oh and spare me the ghetto-babble please. its pathetic
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.