DJ struggling! Could use your help asap

[j8snx1]

Hey guys.. I sort of feel like a bum!

I was at the gym today and I felt sort of stupid when I couldn't really think of what to say to a cute girl. I tried not to overanalyze anything, however I couldn't manage to open my mouth to say something relevant to the scene/situation.

Most girls in my gym do either cardio or light weight lifting, unless they're one of the built women who are lifting 2x more than the average work-out male...which is pretty cool actually lol

So yeah. Most girls do cardio or light weights and at most times I really can't bring myself to say something relevant about their workout stuff. I wanted to open up the conversation using something like:

"Hey you look like a good cardio person. Could I ask you something?" and run with it from there, asking about my questions regarding cardio, her workout stuff, how often she goes to the gym, and fit some ****y funny and kino along the way. I'd then try to build rapport by asking her reasons for working out, and stuff.

I don't mean to be AFC, but I am still learning, so a critique would be a lot more helpful to me than a criticism.

What would be some good can-openers for my gym environment?
Does every convo initiation have to be relevant to the current situation/event/environment?

Thanks.

 

[Grey Fox]

Two things you might want to think about.

1. Are thinking that every time you see a woman that you have to go up and approach her and play DJ 24/7? If so why does it have to be that way and is it fun to do it that way?

2. Why haven't you tried just to say hi and why are you limiting yourself to conversations about working out?

-Grey Fox

 

[The Nice Guy is Gone]

When I go to the gym, and I notice (key word) someone I would like to talk to, I introduce myself. When you do this, there are a couple of options for her to do:

1.) completely ignore you (not worth your time anyway)
2.) introduce themselves, and get back to working out (which is what you should be doing anyway)
3.) introduce themselves, and carry on a convo from there (why you are doing this in a gym, I have no idea)
4.) introduce themselves and leave with you (only if you are both through with your workout, and you have established some kind of attraction)

Second thought:

Join an excercise class. I didn't really want to at first, but I did it just to try it out--and I love it. Not only is it a lot of fun, you get to listen to the girls talk, and learn about the female gender. It's kind of cool, because as you're there more and more, they'll open up to you. Granted, this is not a site for dating, but the more you can learn, the better off you are.