Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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dissed and redissed...

Demodulate

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So, I was suppose to have a lunch date with the girl today... but as would have it work got in the way... she was good about it, but now she just called and told me casue I dissed her today shes blowing me off tomorrow...

needless to say I had a rough day and wasnt happy to hear this so I was like "whatever, Ill talk to you later" and got off the phone. I was hungry and my food was sitting in front of me..

is the ball in my court or hers.. im of the mind to let her call me, but i have a feeling its going to turn into a game.. if she doesnt call then what... next? or do I call her if I dont here from her...
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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She called to tell you she was kidding because of the way you reacted to her first call. That was a very good answer.
 

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well she already called.. to tell me she was kidding....
If she was sincere in terms of the kidding part she would have said so in the first phone call and not piss you off. You got to let the woman know you won't take her sh1t test.

If I was you and she called back saying she was kidding, I would tell her that after she canceled her lunch with you, you made plans with someone else and that you will call her again when you are available. This will piss her off even more that you did not take the bait and she might not even want to talk to you ever again if she truly wasn't kidding. At least you would know that.

Or what you can do is play with it and make her work for that date by saying stuff like "hmmm I don't know now, you might need to wear something extra special for me in order for me to show up this time" (make sure she follow it through)

By the way why are you being rushed about it seeing this chick during your lunchbreak at work? Can't you make a date after work where you have plenty of time to relax?! Beside dinner dates are always better then lunch dated because lunch dates are too casual.
 

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we both have busy schedules and lunch was just an attempt to see each other...

she came over tonight, ate pizza and watched tv. caught her off guard with a kiss she lost her train of thought... it was funny....

as far as playing the im busy game shes wise to that... she can fire it right back..

but its all good... I like a girl with a little sass...
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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TooColdUlrick

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Originally posted by Demodulate
we both have busy schedules and lunch was just an attempt to see each other...

she came over tonight, ate pizza and watched tv. caught her off guard with a kiss she lost her train of thought... it was funny....

as far as playing the im busy game shes wise to that... she can fire it right back..

but its all good... I like a girl with a little sass...
sounds like you're "in" for the moment. she bluffed you, you called her, she folded. perfect example of getting an "A+" on a sh!t test, lol.

love it.

every guy on this site should read this thread.
 
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