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disproportionally large calves?

lolwut

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I have a problem, my calves are disproportionally larger compared to rest of my body, not to an extreme but noticeable.

There doenst seem to be any fat there, it feels like muscle but my calves dont feel particularly strong or anything. I have a decent vertical jump but nothing special.

anyone have a similar problem about a particular body portion? is there anything that can be done about it? (other than bulking the rest of my body)

losing weight didn't seem to help as i only lost abdominal fat and my limbs stay the same (i'm not fat to begin with)

and no i don't have duchenne's muscular dystrophy lol
 

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Were you once a lot heavier and then dropped a lot of weight?
 

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lolwut said:
I have a problem, my calves are disproportionally larger compared to rest of my body, not to an extreme but noticeable.

There doenst seem to be any fat there, it feels like muscle but my calves dont feel particularly strong or anything. I have a decent vertical jump but nothing special.

anyone have a similar problem about a particular body portion? is there anything that can be done about it? (other than bulking the rest of my body)

losing weight didn't seem to help as i only lost abdominal fat and my limbs stay the same (i'm not fat to begin with)

and no i don't have duchenne's muscular dystrophy lol
It's just the way it is, man. I have a large chest by nature and pretty much any exercise I do hits my pecs. That's why I focus on other exercises with correct form and rarely if ever bench press. Do heavy compound exercises like squats and deadlifts. Stretch your calves before you do them and make sure your heel remains on the ground. Your calves are hit in these exercises regardless of your form (they are synergists), but they will never be hit as hard as other muscles.

Oh and also: too bad for you but large calves have quite little to do with athletic performance. High jumpers and basketball players have relatively small calves. Sure, you need calf muscles, but they're almost never the prime mover in any sport.
 

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lolwut said:
I have a problem, my calves are disproportionally larger compared to rest of my body, not to an extreme but noticeable.

There doenst seem to be any fat there, it feels like muscle but my calves dont feel particularly strong or anything. I have a decent vertical jump but nothing special.

anyone have a similar problem about a particular body portion? is there anything that can be done about it? (other than bulking the rest of my body)

losing weight didn't seem to help as i only lost abdominal fat and my limbs stay the same (i'm not fat to begin with)

and no i don't have duchenne's muscular dystrophy lol
Dude plenty of guys--myself included---WISH we had that problem. It's just genetic man. Nothing you can do except get bigger all around. I have a huge dome so I had to gain 50+ pounds, haha.
 

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AlexDP said:
It's just the way it is, man. I have a large chest by nature and pretty much any exercise I do hits my pecs. That's why I focus on other exercises with correct form and rarely if ever bench press. Do heavy compound exercises like squats and deadlifts. Stretch your calves before you do them and make sure your heel remains on the ground. Your calves are hit in these exercises regardless of your form (they are synergists), but they will never be hit as hard as other muscles.

Oh and also: too bad for you but large calves have quite little to do with athletic performance. High jumpers and basketball players have relatively small calves. Sure, you need calf muscles, but they're almost never the prime mover in any sport.
Big calves make for a harder kick, if you're into kickboxing. They make the leg heavier. But you need the quads to go with them.
 

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Walking is not your problem. You just have big calves...unless there's some relevant information you're not telling us.

Watch this video by a very bright 21 year old with big calves --> http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TEKBR9Q39…

Calves are one of the most difficult muscles to build with exercise and one of the last places the body stores fat. So, if you have disproportionately large calves, you got them from your DNA...nature, not nurture. And, like Laci, it's a problem you'll just have to learn to live with. There is no exercise, no supplement, no spa treatment, no infomercial junk, nothing which will make a muscle smaller without atrophy or fat loss.

Just follow Laci's advice. We all have our less than desirable characteristics and they make themselves known initially in the teens when the self esteem is at a low ebb and physical attributes seem to be the focus of everyone's attention. You didn't provide your age, but your question is like those teens ask. So, if you're a teen, don't worry. You, like Laci, will adjust and be fine.

Good luck and good health!!
 
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