I would like to zoom out and look at the bigger picture. Talk about live, how we percieve the world and everything in it.
Recall men (and even women) who are successful, confident, happy, what have you. They seem to be focused on what they want to focus. They are unreactive, they are focused on accomplishing goals: big ones like starting and developing a business, and small ones like talking to their friends or asking people out... but their minds are not focused on what MIGHT happen TO THEM as a result. Their thoughts and words and actions are purely focused ******ds in order to achieve a positive result.
I work as a pharmacy technician, and when i work at the register customers pick up prescriptions, ask questions, etc. I can tell within seconds, by a person's eyes and tone whether they are an afc or an "alpha male" like nerds like to say.
Look at movie actors, more specifically watch Sean Connery in James Bond, or Denzel in Training Day - these men exist in their own universe that they created, and everything they do simply adds to, and reinforces their universe. They are unmoved, they are unafraid, they are unreactive... nor do they care how others may react to them. They assume the world with react congruently with their reality (notice me repeating it)... and many times it does.
When I started to put the pieces to the puzzle together, I quickly started becoming a new man. People react to the much better which is good obviously... but the most important thing is that I feel good inside because I am in control of my emotions, actions and thoughts. Even now as I am writing this i hope that many of you read it and discuss it with me, though I will not be negatively affected if you guys dismiss me. Its fine with me. I am sharing my newfound knowledge with you all, and also I am rationalizing it for myself.
Nobody thinks of me as creepy any more. No body makes fun of me. No girl will say I have low confidence or laugh at me. No guy will take me for a joke... All these things were true in a not very distant past. I have been on a path to self improvement (mental masturbation according to Brad Pitt, as well as a writer of one of the posts here lol). Gym, working a lot, learning, socializing, jerking off less, etc...
Ill sum it up for you guys: self improvement is great, but make sure every piece of self improvement no matter how small or big (making yourself look like a Greek God, or buying that poster of Scarface that makes my wall look cooler) ... must add something positive to your reality, NOT CREATE IT. Self -imroment starts not in your mouth, not in your biceps, not in your wallet. It starts not on your dyck, not in your hair. It starts in your mind. make sure your reality is set, because like Amante said, when a guy reaches his goal of bencing 250lbs, if he does not do it, he hates himself. A petty fact like benching a certain number of pounds defines his reality, his self image, his happiness, his confidence. No woman, no material thing can make or break you... only YOU can do it. You have to realize this before you start improving thyself.
Another topic I want to talk about: how do you set your reality, how do you achieve happiness and comfort in your mind and in your heart. You know when it is there. You cannot point a finger on it, but it's there. The times when you feel good, feel social, confident, relaxed, alert, etc... urban people will say "I'm feelin it" or "I'm in the zone". Secret fans will say im having "high level vibrations", new age thinkers will call it "energy"... but finally I found out that it has a scientific meaning. There is something called "alpha brain waves", and I wont go into it just yet until you guys look it up. The more you have these alpha brain waves (as opposed to beta waves) the more you are on your way to improving yourself and having your sh!t together.
I'm not finished but it's getting late. I will add more of my thoughts as this continues... but for now I'm done.
P.S.
If you ask me "oh but she has not called my back yet, what does this mean, ive been worrying if she likes me all day today!!" -Ill kill ur sorry ass lol! j/p So none of that please.
Recall men (and even women) who are successful, confident, happy, what have you. They seem to be focused on what they want to focus. They are unreactive, they are focused on accomplishing goals: big ones like starting and developing a business, and small ones like talking to their friends or asking people out... but their minds are not focused on what MIGHT happen TO THEM as a result. Their thoughts and words and actions are purely focused ******ds in order to achieve a positive result.
I work as a pharmacy technician, and when i work at the register customers pick up prescriptions, ask questions, etc. I can tell within seconds, by a person's eyes and tone whether they are an afc or an "alpha male" like nerds like to say.
Look at movie actors, more specifically watch Sean Connery in James Bond, or Denzel in Training Day - these men exist in their own universe that they created, and everything they do simply adds to, and reinforces their universe. They are unmoved, they are unafraid, they are unreactive... nor do they care how others may react to them. They assume the world with react congruently with their reality (notice me repeating it)... and many times it does.
When I started to put the pieces to the puzzle together, I quickly started becoming a new man. People react to the much better which is good obviously... but the most important thing is that I feel good inside because I am in control of my emotions, actions and thoughts. Even now as I am writing this i hope that many of you read it and discuss it with me, though I will not be negatively affected if you guys dismiss me. Its fine with me. I am sharing my newfound knowledge with you all, and also I am rationalizing it for myself.
Nobody thinks of me as creepy any more. No body makes fun of me. No girl will say I have low confidence or laugh at me. No guy will take me for a joke... All these things were true in a not very distant past. I have been on a path to self improvement (mental masturbation according to Brad Pitt, as well as a writer of one of the posts here lol). Gym, working a lot, learning, socializing, jerking off less, etc...
Ill sum it up for you guys: self improvement is great, but make sure every piece of self improvement no matter how small or big (making yourself look like a Greek God, or buying that poster of Scarface that makes my wall look cooler) ... must add something positive to your reality, NOT CREATE IT. Self -imroment starts not in your mouth, not in your biceps, not in your wallet. It starts not on your dyck, not in your hair. It starts in your mind. make sure your reality is set, because like Amante said, when a guy reaches his goal of bencing 250lbs, if he does not do it, he hates himself. A petty fact like benching a certain number of pounds defines his reality, his self image, his happiness, his confidence. No woman, no material thing can make or break you... only YOU can do it. You have to realize this before you start improving thyself.
Another topic I want to talk about: how do you set your reality, how do you achieve happiness and comfort in your mind and in your heart. You know when it is there. You cannot point a finger on it, but it's there. The times when you feel good, feel social, confident, relaxed, alert, etc... urban people will say "I'm feelin it" or "I'm in the zone". Secret fans will say im having "high level vibrations", new age thinkers will call it "energy"... but finally I found out that it has a scientific meaning. There is something called "alpha brain waves", and I wont go into it just yet until you guys look it up. The more you have these alpha brain waves (as opposed to beta waves) the more you are on your way to improving yourself and having your sh!t together.
I'm not finished but it's getting late. I will add more of my thoughts as this continues... but for now I'm done.
P.S.
If you ask me "oh but she has not called my back yet, what does this mean, ive been worrying if she likes me all day today!!" -Ill kill ur sorry ass lol! j/p So none of that please.
