difficult concept: Relaxation

[tarotale]

this is the core problem that i have.

when i start initiation, it flows pretty well since i keep the cf, and

i am naturally gifted with creativity with words, so i use that to adventage

and make girls laugh in unthinkable and unique ways.

but core fvcking problem my men, is i am not relaxed.



alpha male does not care, does not worry, and he is always relaxed.

without this "relaxation", i don't think i can develop into true alpha male

because relaxation directly has to do with confidence.

i am planning to buy "how to become alpha male" and "how to talk to women"

and read them many times so i can understand them subconsciously.

so how do you truly relax?
thanks to snow plowman, i realized that being the true one sel

 

[Lexington]

The simplest and best way to gain confidence is to just keep on approaching and macking on women until it becomes natural. It just takes practice just like many other things.

It's a little bit like when you first learned how to drive. Remember how intimidating it was at first when you tried to coordinate the clutching, gear changes, gas, braking, signaling etc.? But you just kept at it and eventually it got to the point where it's second nature.

It's the same thing with playing the guitar, with shooting a basketball and with picking up ladies.

 

[mothballs]

Aside from just getting used to talking to new people and becoming naturally relaxed... If I am nervous I make sure to keep my body language in check... if you can do that, at least you will appear to be relaxed and eventually it will translate into being relaxed. Keep fidgeting to a minimum (don't touch your face, don't crack your knuckles, pick at your fingernails etc.), maintain eye contact, avoid looking at a clock or your watch... keep your body facing them, not pointing at your buddies or the door or the bar... IMO body language is very important when you're trying to get people comfortable with you and to be comfortable with them.

 

[KSUgamer]

I know this is not the best way to go about it, but it sure is the easiest. Alcohol gets me really relaxed. I get a little drunk and I don't have a care in the world. Whenever I'm drunk or semi-drunk I automatically get the I don't give a sh*t mind set. I have the excuse that I was drunk to use later on. Of course this isn't a good excuse and it will not really improve your game that much (unless you plan on being drunk every time you meet a woman). But hey its fun, you're usually in the setting to meet girls, and I get a confidence boost out of it.

Alcohol really doesn't help you relax much, but its the mindset you're in...or the state you think you're in when you drink that really helps.