Different kind of arousal?

[Life-Trainee]

This is extremely new to me. In the last month dating pace has picked up for me and I've been starting to feel new things. I'm currently dating two girls who are intersted in me.

I don't have oneitis for either one, but I've been in a fcuked emotional state nonetheless. The female affection and intimacy has really opened up something inside me. I've been walking around with a hungry void that needs to be fullfilled, but I've been unable to speed up pace with either girls. It's really really strange.

I haven't masturbated or looked at porn in two weeks nor do I have desire to. I'm suspecting that I really want a relationship. A feeling that lay dormant in me for many years has awakened in a full force.

I have hooked up with girls before but these feelings I'm having are beyond sex.

Anyone got a better idea of what might be going on and why it's overriding my lust??

 

[catch]

love is actually addictable, maybe your a big "love junkie",
ive read reports of people that are in a constant search for, "those butterfly feelings" you get!
or
your getting old now!
or
you may be having withdrawall symptoms because you havent masterbated in a while!( i dont think i can spell withdrwall)

anyway, you now need a constant supply of what ever your not getting so maybe you should find a LTR... or do what i did, and invest in a pet goat, mines called betty!
ime originally from wales, a place wher the men..... are MEN...
and the sheep get very nervous..!!

my goat can now do the dishes with one foot, run me bath with the other, open a beer with one foot, and cook my pasta with the other...betty is a swiss army wife!

 

[wowiehowie]

Originally posted by Life-Trainee
This is extremely new to me. In the last month dating pace has picked up for me and I've been starting to feel new things. I'm currently dating two girls who are intersted in me.

I don't have oneitis for either one, but I've been in a fcuked emotional state nonetheless. The female affection and intimacy has really opened up something inside me. I've been walking around with a hungry void that needs to be fullfilled, but I've been unable to speed up pace with either girls. It's really really strange.

I haven't masturbated or looked at porn in two weeks nor do I have desire to. I'm suspecting that I really want a relationship. A feeling that lay dormant in me for many years has awakened in a full force.

I have hooked up with girls before but these feelings I'm having are beyond sex.

Anyone got a better idea of what might be going on and why it's overriding my lust??

OK. I not all too clear with your post.
Can I assume that you aren't having sex with either of them?

 

[Life-Trainee]

Re: Re: Different kind of arousal?

Originally posted by wowiehowie
OK. I not all too clear with your post.
Can I assume that you aren't having sex with either of them?

Nope no sex yet. These are my first official "dates" ever. One's a week apart from the other.

I am considering dropping one of them, but I have to do it gently since she's a friend and would only be an LDR.

The strangest thing is that I can't associate my feeling with either of them! I'm really afraid of hurting the chick I mentioned.

Yesterday I was walking through the mall and didn't check out even one good looking girl.

I don't know maybe i'm not being honest with myself. I do have a reputation of being very emotionally withdrawn.

I think both girls make me feel special in a different way.

 

[Hamno]

Lol, sucker....I can only laugh because I went through the same bloody thing before getting with my gf. I tred the whole 'how far should I really go before dropping one' line...While I enjoyed the whole DJ aspect of dating around I truly dont want to hurt anyone by taking all this stuff to far, so I really dont like walking that line.

I can only base on my own experience...which I'm hoping is applicable considering I'm basically the same age.

Age 23 was spent as a trainee-naval officer and had a female friend who was going through the training at the same time. Both had dated other people during the time that we knew each other but in the end we ended up spending more time with each other than the respective gf/bf's...by the time that we were together it wasnt really any great decision....was completly natural.

Sadly, the joy of post-training postings sent us off to seperate parts of the country...I gone through the whole 'love' thing with the university gf but had never quite understood how much I could connect with someone. I dont regret any of it and am quite glad for the time spent together

This happens dude, if your ready for a more mature relationship then dont fret about pursuing such a thing....although be carefull. You didnt mention the age of the two girls you were dating and could definatly be younger and not ready for anything beyond the 'look cute and get dates' age. These two may not be one's worth a mature relationship, but there are others out there who are.

Hamno
-These are the skills that you learn to be able to charm the women you actually want to date

 

[wowiehowie]

Re: Re: Re: Different kind of arousal?

Originally posted by Life-Trainee
Nope no sex yet. These are my first official "dates" ever. One's a week apart from the other.


Yesterday I was walking through the mall and didn't check out even one good looking girl.

With the whole "not looking at other girls" thing at the mall, it reminds of me of the few times when I truly felt I loved a girl and somehow didn't have any desire to look at others. I really don't believe you love any of there girls, right? Cause it's only been a very short time.

Do these girls turn you on sexually?

 

[Life-Trainee]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Different kind of arousal?

Originally posted by wowiehowie
With the whole "not looking at other girls" thing at the mall, it reminds of me of the few times when I truly felt I loved a girl and somehow didn't have any desire to look at others. I really don't believe you love any of there girls, right? Cause it's only been a very short time.

Do these girls turn you on sexually?

It breaks my heart to make a choice.

First girl is is a great potential and I can really see it develop into something serious. She lives close to me.

The second girl, who's been my friend for a while, is too a potential, but she studies in another state till next year. However she comes over every few weeks. I didn't see her more than a friend until she showed a lot of interest in me recently. She too is a great LTR potential, we have a lot in common and she adores me. However, we won't be able to have a meaningful LTR until she graduates. She knows risks and is willing.

I see girl 1 as a more accessible LTR because she's local and very interested despite my faults. Second girl and I have deeper connection though and our personalities perfectly match.