"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Did you ever get into trouble for hitting on the wrong girl?

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The_Reaper

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This is quite a negative point, but if you hit the girlfriend of a psycho, it's possible he'll try to beat you up or kill you on the spot.

I heard of a NYC boxer who was shot dead for making a comment to some dude's GF (not sure what the comment was).

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Have you ever been in an altercation or fight or dodgy situation as a result of any PUA/DJ-related activities?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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SharinganUser, +1 Rep. Thats the risk of going in the game. I haven't literally foughten a guy but i was confronted twice in two different periods:

1) Was gaming a sorority girl at a club whom was "like a sister" to this frat guy i knew of. He and this other guy confronted me about being punching my face if i touched her ass(I didn't tho.lol). Course he either wanted her for himself or couldn't handle that non frat guys can get sorority girls too. A fellow sorority girl told him to stop threatning me and they stopped. She then told me that they were being stupid.

2) Was gamign a girl i knew for a bit, who was kinda seeing a guy. He didn't like the fact that i was gaming her too(****blocking) but then i told him it was fair game as i've gotten attempted to ****blocked in the past but i prevailed. He then agreed. She was a girl whom i could tell had interest in me, because she knew of my reputation of gaming girls, and despite him making out with her....she was even looking at me while they were but it was not the "Im doing this to make u jealous" look but more of the "i still want u" look. So then his friends kept telling me to give up and to show my game, but i didn't as he said it was fair game and i would diminish my pride at the time i thought, so then i give it a shot by putting my arm around her while his is.... to where the guy knocks my arm back to where i knock his back. And we stare at each other. he had the people who lived there to back him up, hence i didn't want to fight as in case i did win, the others would then go to fight me. The day after, he apologizes realizing that if he only said it was him and her for the night to me, i would've let it go and that they weren't even dating. He then realizes that he was wrong and shouldn't never agreed.

Thats why u dont' apologize for the game. At the end of both scenarios, the guys seemed like idiots. They were the ones that looked like fools.
 
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If you purposely try hitting on a girl who you know is taken, you're asking for trouble. Some of you guys talk like wise asses on here, but if some guy ever stuck a gun in your face, i doubt you'd think it was funny. Unfortunately there are plenty of psychos out there who wouldn't hesitate to do great bodily harm to you. If you want to play mr cool and take the chance, be my guest.


P.S. I'm not saying a guy acting like that is right, I'm saying that there are guys like that and no pvssy is worth getting killed over.
 
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I am glad this post came up because this is something that I think about quite often when I go out to bars/clubs.

Has anyone ever gotten in my face? No, not really.

The worst thing that happened was about 8 years ago I was drunk and kind of hitting on this girl. Her boyfriend did not like it too much and told me "to back off", although he did not get in my face.

A few months ago my friend and I went over to an SUV with two chicks in it who were giving us eye contact.

As we started gaming them these guys came out of nowhere and the one said.."Yo fellas they are with us" and the other guy said "Wrong party fellas." Neither of them said it with a nasty tone nor were they belligerent.


You do have to be careful though.

I do agree it is DISRESPECTFUL trying to pick up a girl who is with another guy. However, some guys need to chill and realize if she is atleast cute it is going to happen and she is NOT a piece of property.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Part of being a DJ is developing good people skills in general is it not? You can't always tell if a girl's taken or not and chances are you will end up hitting on a girl who is at some point. If her BF gets mad, you can always calm the situation respectfully, "sorry man, honest mistake, I didn't know she was taken." If you can communicate to the guy that you had no idea and that it won't happen again, you should be alright 95% of the time.

I happen to think that fighting over a taken chick is a really stupid idea and I've seen people dumb enough to do just that. First of all you risk getting your ass whupped (yeah you might win, but it's not guaranteed), you can get in trouble with the law and win or lose, you could get hurt. It's just not worth the trouble.
 
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Stuka your the last person that should respond to this because on the other post you agreed to gaming another mans girl... Like I said on the other post AFC's will kill for their GF.
 
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Birdem said:
Stuka your the last person that should respond to this because on the other post you agreed to gaming another mans girl... Like I said on the other post AFC's will kill for their GF.
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Gaming another mans girl in HIS PRESENCE is another scenario.
 
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Nope, cuz this sumb!tch can scrap! Well, I originally thought this thread was about hitting on a complete b!tch, but every rejection I've had has been at-least with feigned politeness.

If a girl with a bf around is present, I don't hit on her. My marine neighbor does it though and he wonders why guys treat him like sh!t.
 
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I hit on every girl I like. Even when my gf's are around. Hell, I even grabbed girls boobs with their boyfriends infront of me and they didn't do sh!t.

In my opinion do what you want.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Get this fear of hitting on the "wrong" girl out of your head.

I'm betting the only reason that boxer (plus you've "heard" it...we don't really know if it happened or not) got shot was because he dealt with the wrong crowd, maybe some gangbangers or mafia.

But how many of us deal with gangbangers and the mafia on a regular basis? (And if you do, you're hanging with the wrong crowd)

The worst that typically happens when hitting on a girl is either the girl tells you to screw off or the guy she's with tells you to screw off.

Nobody is going to break your head with a bottle! :crazy:
 
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