You have to resort to a bit of enticing psychology…..but not rushed. The token no is triggered if you ask for her number too quickly. Go through some fluff and fake rapid rapport, then suggest parting with her number in a slightly challenging way. Add a dash of humor to make it sizzle. Now there are some women that still won’t budge, they want to exchange a few more emails……U can entertain them or re-direct with reassurance that you are a nice guy and won’t abuse their privacy. If you still get resistance……time to move on, as these women that play impossible to get seldom have anything meaningful to offer in the long run……which it actually is……a long run.
HER-I don’t give out my numbers to strangers: You need to build more comfort, rapport, trust, utilize some humor and reassure her you are of good character.
YOU- I fully understand we just met and how men are always hounding you for your number, but I am not just another guy. I have enjoyed your company and honestly would appreciate earning your trust. I would adore getting to know you better, but here’s the thing, I can only do so much at a loud, crowded bar in 10 minutes. I would like to call you when it’s quiet and there aren’t so many other horny men begging for your digits. I got some great references: my probation officer, psychiatrist, drug counselor, or my ex-wives will all vouch for me. You can also bounce this girl to another location for a mini-date, then extract a number.
Resistance is often triggered when communication goes from being friendly to personal too abruptly. We all have experienced the friendly sales person with an unbelievable FREE offer that in the long run will save you time, money, make everything in the universe align. Then they start asking for your credit card number, your bank account information, your address, etc. Women say no for all sorts of reasons, now I can tell you to suck it up, become comfortable with rejection and do not even allow it to affect you in the slightest. That is, on some level, sound advice but may not be the best course of action. People often give a reflex answer based upon past experiences and may in fact give you an explanation as to why they can’t. Reasons included but not limited to; not interested, in a hurry, conditioned to give the token no as a time saver to further avoid BS.
