"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Determination or "NEXT!" this one??

Hoogie

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So HB 9 from work is giving me mixed signals and i dunno wots going on
Oh, also cause this chick is a HB9 and pretty awesome... thats pretty rare in my town... so yeah... there is a slight case of oneitius here.

Bitta background: Saw her out on the town, danced, initiated kino.... she told me sum secret stuff... I saw that things might have started to go into the friend zone so I was all like "NO! FRIEND ZONE!!!! NO!!!" and she was like "ohhh... so what do u want then?" then i kissed her.
Had holidays for the next week at work and then once i was back asked her out... she refused the first time cause she said she had to babysit (possible, and stupid me only gave her that days notice... so say it was tuesday, i asked her out for tuesday nite).... asked her again with more notice and we went to coffee....
Talked about heaps and most of the convo went well and seemed like she was pretty keen. Talked about friends, life, sex, work, etc. and shes told me more really secret and kinda intamate stuff.
She has a weekend mid-week so for the last day of her weekend (cause she was going to be away the rest of the weeknd) I say we should do something and I'll give her a call that day. So I call her... and her phone's off.... so i send her a message (the message said to come over here to my place and we'll just chill, nothing exiting, so that in itself coulda been a problem)..... and then nothing. no reply.
Next day at work and shes all like... sorry, my dad was sick and had to be flown to hospital so I was there most of the weekend.... I'm all yeh.. k.. no prob (thinking its an excuse but is also still possible) and I look down and theres paint on her hands.... and I'm like "oh paint" and she says... "yeah i was painting again" (WTF?!?!? IN HOSPITAL NEXT TO UR DAD'S BED) so i said cya and left straight away.
I've ignored her most of the day and didnt give her any attention, and I think that might work... but I mean... really...
U think she's just playing me and dik teasin or u think she could have been 4 reals? All the other signs apart from that sh!t says that shes keen.... doesnt make sense?
wots ur thoughts??
should i continue or should i just next her?
also if continuing, should I keep the ignoring and then wait for her to come back to the table... BE REASONABLE WOMAN!


Thanks guys!

P.S: I realise there's a lotta AFC in here.... if u can stop cringing and over look it, thatd be awesome.. thanks (getting back in the game after a few years
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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KillaCam

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Go for it buddy. Give it a go, aim for that next level. If it just ain't happening after that, move on.

Perhaps she flaked, that's a huge possibility, but if you think she's a keeper, then no reason to hold back. Ask her out, if she flakes, bam, next her. You don't want to next her just yet for the sake of it.

Good luck man :up:
 

Hoogie

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hmmmm.... i just read lesson 3 of Pook's 15 lessons tho.... hmmmm.
I understand that i should at least try to see where things go... in case.... but I'd just like to have a bit more forsight into things before I attack
 

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Both.

In other words, still contact her with plans, but consider her "nexted" in your mind and keep spinning plates. If she comes around, it's gravy, so to speak.
 
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