"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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depression, gimme some help

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i'm sometimes depressed and i don't give a sh1t about things... sometimes i think that i stay with my girlfriend just because i don't want to end a 10-months-story... so i try to dump her, but i can't because i really like her... sometimes i think that my friends are trying to steal her from me, when it's just a part of their personality to be friendly people with girls... my grades are a bit lower than i would like them to be, nowadays... in the last month i got approached by just one group of girls and when i try to approach a girl who gives me eye contact, i can't because i think about my girlfriend... i also have known some people in my new school, but they are nothing compared to the old ones, so in school i'm always bored as hell and i consider myself a awful idiot, when friends tell me stories about my ex high school and they say that it used to be a hell of a lot more fun when i was still there with them...
also, my new classmates call me an arrogant pr1ck, just because of my attitude, since i'm naturally ****y and funny... maybe too ****y... i mean, they don't hate me or isolate me... girls usually ask me to go jogging or swimming or out on saturday night with them... but they say that i act like a porn actor... which you may think it's a compliment, but actually it's not, when they go over and over with it, just because you spread your legs when you sit down or you hug a girl from behind when she's talking with them...

sometimes it looks to me like i'm a complete loser, when i know it's not true at all...

for example, i gained 4 kgs in the last 2 months and my confidence has risen a lot... last week i got into a theater play and lots of people complimented on my "awesome body"...

don't mistake me... i'm generally a happy person, but this last period i sometimes get depressed as hell and i don't know what to do about it... give me some advice, because sometimes i'm feeling really bad about all this
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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First of all you got to think logical. What is your problem. What is going on. Once you TOTALY figure out what the problem is, then you can work on the solution. If the problem is that you miss your last school; what is the solution? You can't go back. So you got to make the best of it. Make new friends.......... If the problem is your gf, you know what you must do.....
 

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Originally posted by spider_007
First of all you got to think logical. What is your problem. What is going on. Once you TOTALY figure out what the problem is, then you can work on the solution. If the problem is that you miss your last school; what is the solution? You can't go back. So you got to make the best of it. Make new friends.......... If the problem is your gf, you know what you must do.....
i'm trying to make new friends and it's pretty easy, since i'm outgoing... the fact is... people in my new school have personalities really different than mine and my friends'... plus they are more serious and boring, so i don't really like to be at this school..
i don't know if i should dump my girlfriend, since i've been very happy thanks to her for 9 months and maybe this is just a bad period for the 2 of us... and maybe, if i dumped her and found a new one, i would miss her, like it happened for my school...

other opinions?!
 

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You're 17, this is called "teen angst" and is normal for any developing male. It'll pass.
 

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I never got this "teen angst" when I was 17. I was too busy being bored.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Originally posted by diablo
Anything Else...

You're 17, this is called "teen angst" and is normal for any developing male. It'll pass.
actually i'm 18, so i thought that i had passed adolescence, without experimenting "teen angst"... i used to have some spurts when i was 15-16, but then it went away...

anyway, you must be right, since when i'm happy and i think about what got me mad/angry, i laugh about it and i think it's stupid stuff...
 
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