Denied kiss but high interest? Rejection isn't the end..

[Jaggs]

Alright I don't usually like threads like this, but since it happened to me I am curious with others experience in similar situations.

So this HB I met a while ago, have hooked up with in the past and have continued high interest (Always sexual tension), denied me a kiss earlier tonight. She has a "boyfriend" at the moment, but suspects him of cheating and was just about to break up with him, was telling me all night how hes going to get rid of him so she can hang with me (Huge interest sign!). Whack, but I don't want anything besides sex and she knows it. A couple of her friends like me so she knows I can go to other woman. She came over tonight and I gave her a massage, tons of sexual tension/touching, started wrestling her and got on top and went in for the kill but she turned away, so it just went on her neck. She didn't seem too receptive to the kiss at all, but the mood besides that stayed exactly the same afterwards (sexual/playful). Maybe something do with the fact she is technically with someone? (wasnt a long relationship)

I know she digs me and has is constantly organizing things with me, so I'm just gonna try it again right away. She will cave in.

Anyone got any similar experiences or stories about woman doing this? It isn't the first time something like this has happened.

I find persistence and a not caring of outcome attitude really helpful. If you don't get what you want, try again, if not...fvck her (her loss) and get something even better. She will instantly want you again. I am not talking this case specifically, but in general when dealing with those strange creatures. Let nothing bother you. Shrug off rejection with a smile and it wont be a rejection.

 

[DarkShade]

She probably feels slightly guilty about her still being in a relationship and kissing someone else, classic ASD. Keep it up though, like you said if she's highly interested she will cave in, only a matter of time.

 

[horaholic]

I've been there done that, and it's never ended well. You may be her "revenge" on her dyckhead BF that she will most likely stay with. He's probably not giving her attention so she's getting it from you. 90% of the time, this is the case. If you have super good game, you can bang her, but she is cheating on her bf with you, and she'll do it to you if you want more than just a fvck. If you dont have super-game, save yourself your dignity and sanity and tell her you'll talk to her when she's single.

The last chick that pulled this with me turned me into a chump, and I never got any, and when she finally did break up with her bf (several months after we started messing around", she says "I need ME time, and just need you as a friend for a while, blah, blah." WASTE OF TIME AND SANITY.

This is just my experience, however. The fact that her relationship with her bf isnt long term may work for you though, if she doesnt have too much invested in him.

I'd tell her to call you when she's single.

 

[Jaggs]

^ Yeah I've done that in the past too. I know exactly what you are saying.

I was a tiny bit intoxicated and probably a more of a fvck it attitude. Just wanted some right then. Looking back shoulda just kept interest and waited until she had actually gone ahead with the break up. Her boyfriend is a complete ass, called her the other night and he said he was trying to get laid haha. He's pretty natural, just an inconsiderate person in general. So it's not as easy as someone breaking out of a completely AFC relationship (they just go crazy then IMO).

I'm not going to go out with her again till she breaks it off. If she doesn't, then I'll just see other people.

 

[Paintballguy]

I had a similar experience once. I took this chick, who also had a bf, out to hangout. When I went to drop her off, I leaned in for a kiss and got totally rejected. I was like oh well **** it. I just played it off like nothing happened, and I just kept talking to her and what not. Long story short, I was banging her the next week. Persistence is key.

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

Keep her around but, don't put too much time in her. She may be saying now she doesn't want to be with her boyfriend. She could change her mind and stay with him. Don't get sucked in to any games she may have in mind. I would suggest meet other women in the mean time.

 

[f283000]

Jaggs your situation is not good. I know from personal experience i had a similar 1 so I know what you are experiencing and I made the same mistake you made.

She still wants her bf and the fact she kept talking about him shows it. You made a big mistake in listening to her talk about her bf all night, you just became her emotional tampon, psychiatrist. You do not want to be any of those 2, you want to be her lover. You are now in a very bad position that will be hard for you to get out off.

The moment she started talking about her bf you should have punished her and told her to never talk to you about him again. You must never let a woman talk about their exes in your presence and if they do they must be punished for it. You need to use the 2 strikes rules here and move for the kiss again. You can pretty much forget about her if she denies you again.

women aren't that difficult to figure out. So she tells you she wants to dump her bf to hang out with you but then she denies your kiss?? HA! she wants you as an emotional tampon to cry her sorrows as she waits to get back to her a**hole bf to ride his jock all night. You are in a spot where the 2 strikes rule would work perfectly for you to find out either YES or NO. Right now you are just a fool, HER FOOL.

 

[Jaggs]

She doesn't keep talking to me about it. She mentioned that she was going to break it off last night, seemed like she was trying to get validation from me and that was the end of the conversation.

Whenever girls start to talk about their guy troubles I just look dis interested or exaggeratedly yawn. It gets the point across instantly.

But yeah, I can see how easily it is to fall into the emotional tampon trap. Most guys run to the rescue of any damsel in distress, I've done this in the past and learn my lesson. I'm not gonna let it happen. Seeing two other girls in the next two weeks, so I'm definitely not concerned on the outcome of this one particular one, If she breaks it off I'll go out with her again, if not fvck her. whistle: )

One of the other girls is literally her best friend. Anyone had experience with this? Is it good for creating jealousy or will it mostly be seen as a negative thing? I can tell when she asked about our plans (girl NO1, one in this thread) was really curious and jealous about it, trying to budge herself into our little outing. Is it ever a good idea to go out with 2 woman at literally the same time? Anyone done this before?

I'm really new to this DJing woman to get experience kinda thing. I never used to have trouble with woman, just had quite a few AFC tendancies and was stuck in a horrible AFC LTR at one point. So once I just understood the mindset and dived right in I have found lots of success. I truly feel for the people that have to start all the way from the bottom. I'm still learning, but experiencing some good results already. I have managed to implant a whole a sexual side to my personality that EVERYONE responds to. I mean literally everyone, even my manager who's engaged was joking about being in love with me. It was a bit strange. (husband is complete AFC) (Dont mean to brag but its exciting shyt lol)