"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

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The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Denied a girl I'm interested in sex

zinc4

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Long story, will cut it short...a pretty nice girl who has helped me a lot here overseas even let me stay rent free a few weeks in her aunts rental apartment abd boughtme a lot of stuff. We have been on just a bunch of friendly type dates just holding hands and kiss atbtge end.... By far the slowest I have ever gone with a chick...

Meanwhile been banging easy girls in the side....

Last weekend though I lied and said was out of town but really was out banging some new plates...

She ended up finding a new girls lipstick in the place I was stating abd got all upset saying I couldn't be trusted ...

Saw her after that went to her back to her apartment for damage control where she gave me the distant treatment so I decided to see if I could at least salvage a bang from this good girl experiment...

On her bed went for the kiss which she refused many times before I basically wrestled her to me and held her head in place firmly kissing her face....it could have been called near rape....whatever...

She finally succumbed... kissing deeply at which point I got her shirt off under her bra starting sucking the nipples all that foreplay stuff...

At which point she jumped on top of me and starred to get all aggressive...

Said you want sex with me...was dry humping me..

Then all of a sudden I went soft...she could ferlnit abd said let me touch your penis at which point I embarrassing ly said no because I was soft...she then got very aggressive and straddled me again abd tried to take my.pants off...

I stopped her abd said no.let's wait until next time...

She looked hurt abd surprised and my brain wanted to but my body just wouldn't for some reason...


Its like I've subconscious ly placed her in the friend zone even though she's very pretty and hot....I just couldn't get hard and bang her....first time its ever happened to me with an attractive girl...

I still want to date her though....because she's not an easy girl at all and I really respect that..

Just not sure she can get over the lipstick thing abd no sex....

This girl is very serious and was talking about potential marriage before the lipstick..


I don't want marriage of course but I've never dated a girl that it took this longbto get sexyal with abd I've tried hard on all our previous dates...no white knighting...so she's definitely gf material...just need to stop thinking of her as non sexual now and get her trust back...
 

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zinc4

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Hahaha.... No...actually, you have it reversed....I'm not her beta boy. I've already banged over 10 different women on the side since first going out with her.....got a plate coming over tonight


She provided free housing for me which i took several girls back too.....she always insists on paying for the both of us everyone we went out...cooks meals for me....bought me new sweaters, shirts abd pairs of jeans. Always initiating dates....ect. She's only slept with one guy before she claims which is very believable considering this is Taiwan and a lot of the non party girls are virgins until marriage. She doesn't drink nor go out at night time and dresses extremely conservative.... too conservative... In fact, that's one if the reasons I couldn't get it up.

She's an actual good girl and I respect that that's all. Just wish I could think of her in a more sexual way. I kind of regard her as a little sister type of figure.
 
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