Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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lamobatsman

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I deleted and blocked a girl and she sent me very nastymessages saying im playing games and acting like a kid.

I tried to explain why i blocked her cos i needed to get over her.

Is blocking and deleting a bad move to get over someone??
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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lamobatsman said:
Is blocking and deleting a bad move to get over someone??
Nope, it's the very best thing you can do in such a situation.
 

Atom Smasher

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You should never feel you have to explain yourself to a woman. Instead you tell her factually why you are doing something and then ignore the reaction.
 

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If blocking and deleting is the only way that allows you to get over someone then go ahead and as Atom said you dont own any explanation to anyone, let alone some girl which decreased your quality of life.

You dont give explanation, you make your intention clear unconditionally, its not a trading process nor a negotiation.

However deleting someone could create reactions like this one which could potentially sabotage your attempt, after all now you're thinking about her while we discuss this, so you just simply leave things how they are and go no contact.

Just disable any notification coming from that person and only after few weeks or a couple of months, proceed with the elimination.

You avoid the drama and the satisfaction that such person may feel, in fact when somebody gets deleted right after rejecting someone feels so important to control other people reaction through their behaviour.

Anyway if you feel you cant keep such person without the risk of contacting her again then yeah, delete as soon as possible.
 

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Do you ever sit down with a girl after things have messed up and ask her what happened? if i have the opportunity to ask her why she did what she did do you take that opportunity to get answers?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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This is a typical female reaction to getting deleted from a social networking page. They are used to getting attention from men on there, not rejection. Ignore and carry on, she isn't your problem anymore and you will heal much more quickly without seeing her updates or being tempted to stalk her page.

lamobatsman said:
Do you ever sit down with a girl after things have messed up and ask her what happened? if i have the opportunity to ask her why she did what she did do you take that opportunity to get answers?
Chances are you will never get the truth out of her so there is no real point in asking.
 

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Mauser96 said:
So true. They seem to think they can f&CKKK you around, play mind games, etc....yet genuinely seem puzzled when you block them. Like "what did I do wrong?" Are they really that dense? Do they really believe there is never repercussions to their actions, or??
OR... They don't believe they did anything wrong, convince themselves of this, and are never to blame for anything. It's always your fault - like when you delete them AFTER being treated like ****. But that part doesn't factor into the equation, because they're perfect, harmless, never do any wrong, and are always the victim. Delusional and conceited, usually. Always about them, etc.

Even if they are horribly abusive and selfish - it's everyone else's fault; you're a jerk for not being their friend, tolerating their BS, or "understanding" their lunatic ass. Blah blah, whatever.
 
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