Deflowering a virgin

[Chipmonkey]

This isn't about "How to get her in bed".

This is about what to DO in bed. Should I go slow because it'll be painful for her? Or what? Will she enjoy or will she hate me?

 

[2N Turbo]

Ask her, when she takes off a band-aid. Does she pull it off real quick and have pain for a second. Or does she peel it off real slow.

 

[whoami]

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If that is what she wants, skip her.. Let her have that on her terms
(being her steady BF) if she wants it that way, but with someone else,
if you don't want to promise her that. You could tell her that if she
will let you have it, no promises about the future but you will be
careful and tender with her (and mean it, don't just say that). Don't
lie to a woman to get this.

On the other hand, you could say that you will do it, but while you
can't promise to be her long-term BF, in order to teach her right so
that she gets the maximum benefit, she has to do this every night with
you for a week. You're not lying to her and you now have your date card
filled for the next 7 days! And knowing you've got a virgin that
really wants you to **** her every night for the next week has got to
beat a sharp stick in the eye any day!

And don't forget the fringe benefits here. A considerable number of
women who are young - 19 to 26 - are taking birth control pills, even
though they are not sexually active, because the hormones also control
some skin problems they might otherwise have. Find out if she's taking
them at low dose or at birth control strength. Because guess what fella:
if she is using birth control at full strength (and you can trust her
that she's not lying) and if you know you're clean, you get to **** her
without a rubber AND pop her cherry! That's a big win for you.

But don't promise her that you'll be her boyfriend if you don't mean it.
Most of us have become sick-and-tired of women deciding they will make
us jump through hoops to get from them something we want very much that
if we do it right they can also enjoy too. So we should not do that sort
of thing to them, otherwise we deserve everything they do to us because
of what one of us doing this to them.

Be honest with yourself for a moment. Would you want a woman to do
something similar to you, promise you something, then give you the
run-around just because she got what she wanted? Just because women
treat guys like AFCs (Average Frustrated Chumps, guys who don't get
laid) is no reason to give one an excuse - one she will be damn well
entitled to make, thanks to you - to start doing that to other guys in
the future just because you lied to her in order to get the extreme
privilege of popping her cherry. There are enough non-virgins around
with whom you can get laid without much of a problem, to be that kind of
a bastard to a nice girl.

If you know she is, this is one time where you damn well better drop any
preconceptions about "I get something then you get something." If you
got her to give you this it means she trusts you a lot which means you
need to show her you deserve what she is trusting you with: her entire
sexual future. Mess this up fellas, and you could turn this girl into a
lesbian; do it right, and you'll make her into the woman of tomorrow who
will enjoy sex and will be much more interested in letting guys have her
in the future. A girl treated right today is the more receptive woman of
tomorrow.

You need to calm down her fears, mostly that it's going to hurt like
root canal surgery without anesthesia, and that she's going to bleed
like the re-enactment of Rape of the Sabine Women. Tell her you
understand that she's apprehensive and needs to relax. She may want to
have some wine, maybe half a glass, but tell her not to get drunk, just
a little relaxed, you want her to remember what you are going to try to
make a beautiful experience for her that she will remember as long as
she lives.

Basically, you want to let her know that since she's probably not
stretched those muscles down there the way sex will, it may be a bit
uncomfortable at first, the way it is uncomfortable to get up if you've
been sitting for a long time, say, watching a movie. Do not mention
pain; my personal opinion is that if you don't tell her it's going to
hurt, it might not, but if you tell her, it will, she's going to believe
you.

Also tell her that it's not going to be that "be all, end all, sky
rockets in flight" thing she's heard about. In all probability she might
not feel much of anything, because it may take time. Ask her if she's
ever masturbated; surprisingly enough, many girls have never
masturbated. If she has never masturbated, chances are she won't orgasm
at all. Tell her the truth; the more you let her understand that sex is
a learned activity, just like riding a bike, and it takes time to learn
to do accurately, the better it will be for her because you've let her
know not to expect too much.

The idea is that, without putting her down and making her think that
this is going to be horrible, what you are going to do - but don't tell
her this - is to do the equivalent of the classic "excellent supplier"
routine in business. You are going to under promise and over deliver.
What you are going to tell her is the worst case scenario, least good
outcome, that it will be uncomfortable, she won't feel much and won't
come. The better it is for her, the better she will feel about sex
because she expected so little but got much more than she expected.

Do you want to make her feel real good about herself, real nice? When
you get her in bed, tell her how pretty her vagina is. Always tell her
that her vagina is beautiful. Kiss it. Tongue her ****. In fact, there
are a lot of women who have never even seen their own vaginas! Remember,
as far as you're concerned, the most beautiful part of her anatomy, the
part of her you have had the most interest in, is her vagina? Why?
Because it is such a wonderful device for providing pleasure to you. So
let her know how much you appreciate being able to use it. Remember
this, if it's anything she has that is going to make you come, tell her
how much you like it.

And when you're doing anything with her, tell her as soon as she feels
something she does not like, she should tell you immediately. Whether it
hurts or it feels funny.
You want to desensitize her, get her used to it.

As you use kino (contact, touching) to get a girl into being receptive
to letting you take her to bed, and you start slow and work up to it,
you do the same here. This
is one thing where you want to do this slow and careful.

I'm presuming you've done the usual foreplay, sucking her tits, teasing
them, touching her, finding the places that she finds most exciting, and
you've finally gotten
down there and are about to work on it.

Get her relaxed, used to feeling something down there. Now, what you
want to find out is if she's broken her hymen. If she has done that, no
sweat, you can just
enter her as you would a non virgin, just do it slowly so she gets used
to feeling you inside of her.

 

[whoami]

Bring lube if you can. Usually you don't want to use too much but this
is an exception. We're willing to take the risk of overlubricating her
and maybe not have her
come the first time vs. underlubricating her. You may even want to point
this out to her, that normally you don't use a lot of lube because it
might make her so slick
she doesn't get to come, but in view of the circumstances you think
she'd prefer to be too slippery and not come than to have the
opportunity but you use too little
and it hurts.

I think she'll appreciate not only that you understand her, you're
admitting you know she's supposed to come but this is a special
circumstance. If you work it right
she'll probably come anyway so she'll be surprised and pleased.

Let her know that you're going to insert one finger into her and she
should not tense up. What you want to do is reach inside her and see if
her hymen is there. If you need to, put about a nickel-sized dab of lube
on your finger (if she's not already really wet anyway; if she is really
wet, then you don't need the lube.) You might want to get your finger
wet from her own lubrication by rubbing it around the outside of her
vaginal lips.

Oh by the way, if you have to use a lubricant, use something non-oil
based if you're using a condom or she is using a diaphragm; do not use
butter, margarine, Vaseline, baby oil or anything like that. They
dissolve diaphragms and eat through condoms.. There is a product called
"Wet" and one called Astroglide," I have
heard that those are good, but expensive. Personally when I've had to
use a lubricant I use the store brand equivalent of K-Y Jelly, but some
people don't like silicone-based lubricants. If you use a lubricant you
may want to use one without spermicide if you have to perform oral sex
on her.

I would suggest if she's not wet, keep kissing and fondling her, or
perform oral sex on her, until she is self-lubricated with her own
moisture, or until you've done that
for a while - maybe 20 minutes - and she still isn't lubricated, then go
for the lube if you have to. But if you can do it without added lube, do
so because then you
won't make her too slick and she might just enjoy it after all.

I want to advise you of something. Normal women only climax about
25-30% of the time through intercourse alone, so expecting an
inexperienced virgin to do so is
probably unrealistic..

So you discover that she's really wet and excited. You take one finger,
your index finger, the one you'd show to someone you didn't like, and
you gently push it
inside, curling it to match the angle of the vagina.

You may not be aware of this, but did you know when the vagina relaxes
it forms an angle exactly the same as your penis does when it is erect?
That's why when
you're on top of her and you give her the first down stroke as you enter
her it usually slides in easy, that's because you're both at the same
angle.

So you push your finger in until either it is stopped by something or
you get it in all the way to the knuckle. If it goes all the way in,
guess what, she's broken her hymen at some point in the future, since
your finger will go in that far your **** will too, you can just enter
her as you would any non-virgin. Hymens are not all that strong, either;
they get broken through lots of ways. Tampons, bike riding, masturbating
(if she does), falling down, etc. If you're lucky, she's lost it
earlier.

Why is that lucky? Well, you get a double benefit. You get to **** her,
she's a virgin, you get to give her a nice time AND she doesn't
experience any pain on first intercourse. She will really appreciate
that. And you might use that to your advantage. Such as being able to
take advantage of her again!

One possible thing you can do at this point to perhaps try and give her
some pleasure, is to curl your finger slightly like the hook on a coat
hanger and try feeling for some bumps. If you stroke them and she gets
excited, guess what, fella, you just hit her G-Spot. I've done it
myself in more than one woman exactly the same way. In fact, I did it
so well that one of them begged me to stop, I was making her come too
much, she couldn't stand it!

But if you feel some sort of resistance when you push your finger in,
that means she has not broken her hymen. You can try stretching it a
little with your finger, seeing how tough it is, but try not to push too
hard, you don't want to break it just yet. You want that privilege
reserved for your penis. To her, this is a special event in her life,
if it happens, she's entitled to have the "ceremonial" destruction of
her hymen done through intercourse. This you're doing to be special to
her. You could just break the thing with your finger, but women live by
symbols and emotion, let her have this special event to remember it by.

This is when you tell her the news. You tell her you know she has a
hymen, and you have to break it. That you're going to try to break it
gently, and that might work, but if not, you're going to have to break
it hard and there is the possibility, very small, that it might hurt a
little if you have to do that. And you want her help to try to prevent
that.

Of course she's going to be interested. So presumably she's ready to
have sex. If she isn't using birth control, now you put on a rubber,
otherwise you can just get on top of her. Tell her in view of what
you're trying to do, you'll get on top so you can do this right. (You
could also have her get on top and impale herself onto you if you want,
you can forget most of the rest of this except you might push up when
she slides down.)

You get between her legs, you aim your penis for her opening, and you
tell her, on the count of three to lift her ass off the bed and move
toward you, not real hard, but like a little hop. While you are doing
this, get a finger wet, and place it at the top of her vagina near the
****oris. Get ready. Aim. Say it slowly, 1-2. When you say "3", move
into her with a firm stroke, don't hesitate, but don't be really rough
or hard either, while at the same time, gently swipe your wet finger
down her ****oris firmly. "Down" meaning from the pudendum above her
vagina, down toward where your penis is going into her. If her hymen is
normal, you should rupture it without
too much discomfort on her part, and by tickling her ****oris at the
same time you might just distract her enough that she doesn't notice for
the half second that it takes you to take her virginity.

If she complains it hurts, try stretching her a little more with your
finger, and try again. You can do this maybe twice, but if it doesn't
work, you have to use the last chance strategy.

Tell her that unfortunately, the only way you can break her hymen is to
use full force, and it is going to hurt. Offer her the option that she
could just stop, but that if she's willing to go along, you will because
you realize what an amazing thing she's doing for you, actually
accepting pain so you can receive pleasure from her, and you realize how
special that is.

While you really don't want to hurt her, you don't have any choice
unless she wants to quit now and go see a doctor. Basically we're going
to use as much force as we can in one shot to get it to break, and if we
can't do it, that's the end, it's over until she gets attention.

If she says okay, you tell her to do the same thing, 1-2-3 and hop, but
she is to push up her ass off the bed and toward you as fast and as hard
as she can on 3. Now, you're going to back up a bit, put the head of
your penis just inside her, tell her you're going to say it fast, ready,
1-2-3. On 3, you use your pelvic muscles to ram your penis into her as
hard as you can, and while you're holding onto her ass you pull her
toward you as firmly as you can.. Try not to hit her cervix if you can
avoid it.

If it works, it's over in one big ouch. If you still can't break her
hymen, stop. Tell her that she has a medical condition, she needs to
have a gynecologist break her hymen, it's a simple operation. Don't try
to have sex with her.

Presuming you either entered her normally because her hymen was broken
earlier, or you broke her hymen easy or hard, continue here.

Now, with your penis deep inside of this newly formed woman, lie there
for a moment, take her face in both of your hands, kiss her on the lips,
and tell her thank you for the wonderful gift she just gave you. Ask
her, "well how does it feel to be a woman, now?"

Let her get used to having you inside her for a while. Besides, since
she's never had a man before, she's probably very tight and quite
pleasant to be inside.

Tell her you're going to start on her now. Do it easy with her, not real
hard, especially if you had to play "pop goes the weasel" because her
weasel is going to be sore.

Pick a reasonable position, start ****ing her brains out until you feel
that wonderful warning sensation. Especially if you were able to have
her without a rubber. And if she gets to feel it, that's a really nice
experience for her, too. Because now you get the privilege to do
something no man has ever, or will ever do again.

You get to be the first man who comes inside her.

 

[semag]

wow... that is a good article.... is that from this site??? if so, could you link the thread?

 

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