Default Game Mode

[Oak-Root]

Hi guys, first post here,
I have a question, What is your default game mode? Not your club mode, your grocery shopping mode, at work mode, at the gym.
I find I flip from AFC introvert to crude PUA, the later of which works better than the first but this ''Shot Gun and Grenade'' approach can cause a lot of collateral damage and the only place I can safely use it right now is in the wilderness, AKA (far away from where I live). It's fun, and I learn a lot, But chatting up that hot red head that turns out to be the Bosses GF can leave somewhat of a stink in the air, while totally nice guying it is essentially suicide plus extra stink. My point is I think it is unhelpful to get labelled a PLAYA in the work scene, maybe this is just my blue pill conditioning! by all means roast me if you think so, but I feel there are (Tactfully) ways to assert your inner Pook, (Which I am as of now unaware of)

Any clarification on where the happy mid ground is when interacting with new women in a work situation appreciated, from where you can assess the situation while avoiding the friend zone.

I realise this goes under the (General Social Intelligence Category) but it's something that I think a lot of people must experience in the early days.

Sincerely yours,

.

 

[Serenity]

My default mode is a blank mind and improvising on the spot, that's me in literally every situation. I figured out a few years ago that in regards to thinking, less is more. Being stuck in your head is that "introvert AFC" mode, I'm never stuck in my head because if I catch myself doing it I immediately direct my attention to my environment. I practiced doing that, now it's a habit, it has become my default mode.

I generally don't worry what people think of me, better to have a few people despise you than to be stuck in your head. If they can't tolerate the humanity in people then they're the ones in the wrong.

Your example of chatting up your bosses GF is funny. If you didn't know and had no way of knowing who she was in relation to you then what have you done wrong? Absolutely nothing. It's not shameful to try to make moves on the opposite sex, at least not until the moment she turns out to be someone you shouldn't make moves on.

The first thing I learned when trying to get women was that you can't play it safe. It always feels like a risk, but very very rarely turns out to be a significant risk at all. I was very unlike myself for a period of time, a time when I was just sick and tired of my former introverted and insecure self. I went a bit too far sometimes, but this transition period was absolutely necessary for my personal development. It got better as my experience grew.

You should expect to mess up and even burn a few bridges when changing yourself, the safe way if anyone proposes one is a lie. The reward far outweighs the perceived risks though.

 

[wifehunter]

Default game mode = zero energy spent aka not giving a fukk

I have zero problems attracting the ladies.

 

[Oak-Root]

They are some pretty good points. looking back on my post now I see the classic blue pill Over-Thinking distortion everywhere,

Thanks for the perspective.


Cheers!

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

Hi guys, first post here,
I have a question, What is your default game mode? Not your club mode, your grocery shopping mode, at work mode, at the gym.
I find I flip from AFC introvert to crude PUA, the later of which works better than the first but this ''Shot Gun and Grenade'' approach can cause a lot of collateral damage and the only place I can safely use it right now is in the wilderness, AKA (far away from where I live). It's fun, and I learn a lot, But chatting up that hot red head that turns out to be the Bosses GF can leave somewhat of a stink in the air, while totally nice guying it is essentially suicide plus extra stink. My point is I think it is unhelpful to get labelled a PLAYA in the work scene, maybe this is just my blue pill conditioning! by all means roast me if you think so, but I feel there are (Tactfully) ways to assert your inner Pook, (Which I am as of now unaware of)

Any clarification on where the happy mid ground is when interacting with new women in a work situation appreciated, from where you can assess the situation while avoiding the friend zone.

I realise this goes under the (General Social Intelligence Category) but it's something that I think a lot of people must experience in the early days.

Sincerely yours,

.

Wilderness is walking on egg shells. **** collateral damage.

My approach from go is **** or **** off. Blow me or blow me out. Chain gun cold approach. Smash or next. Repeat!

As for fallout, go big or go home. Obviously, exercise common sense. Takin out the flame thrower in your workplace and or social circle is brain damage.


As for AFC cultivate Being. I don't care if I am at the club or the grocery store. I approach as if I had already beat it rotten, went ass to mouth. As in, zero ****s given.

Hotter girls are turning 18 everyday. Come @me bro.

Playing safe is phaggotry. Meanwhile every hottie is 1 cheese burger or broken condom away from expired.


Act accordingly.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

Default game mode = zero energy spent aka not giving a fukk

I have zero problems attracting the ladies.

You should try trolling the ladies. If you're not laughing, you ain't doing it right.