Decreasing Interest Level

[RSanders219]

Hey guys, so I'm on here with another girl problem. This girl I went on a few dates with seemed really interested when we first met. She thought I was really cool, and even texted me a few times saying that I'm really attractive and sh!t like that. We went on about 3 or 4 dates, and we had some sexual stuff going on after all of these dates.

I sort of noticed something was up the last time we were together though, I left her place pretty early in the morning because I had to do something in my town relatively early, she always tries to get me to sleep over but I'd rather wait until things got more serious for that. She sent me a text saying "Why do you always leave so early" that last time we hung out, and I just replied with "I have to do ___ today at ___ A.M."

Ever since that night she's seemed sort of cold. She seemed very attached to me at first, but now she seems to never have time to go out, or just see each other. I texted her earlier this morning to see if she wanted to get together and catch a movie, and haven't gotten a reply.

I'm thinking that I will just go with the no contact for a few days, and if she doesn't get back to me then I'll just move on. What do you guys think? It's sorta tough since I can feel oneitis coming on, but I know that I can do the no contact thing for sure.

On another note, I've been in this situation multiple times with women and have done no contact on them, next thing I know they're calling/texting me CONSTANTLY trying to re-establish themselves in my field.

Any input or advice on this situation would be helpful. Thank you.

 

[RSanders219]

ALSO..

She also said she's been having a busy week at work, working almost every day. But I'm calling BS on that one. I think NC is definitely my key here.

 

[bigneil]

You have the right idea. Employ No Contact - immediately. Count on going 8 days or so - it won't be easy. She should start contacting you again after 4-6 days if it's working, but don't reply right away. Make her contact you 3 times before you reply, and ideally she should ask to see you.

I did this after a girls interest level had hit rock bottom but it still worked. It's key to improve yourself in the meantime - work out, lose weight, eat better, try fasting or detoxing, bike 20 miles per day, get some really nice shoes and a new outfit or two for when you see her again. She will notice. Worst case you get other girls faster.

 

[RSanders219]

Well, she all ready texted me last night twice and I didn't reply. One text was just something stupid and random that I didn't care about, another talking about how she was sorry she didn't get back to me when I asked her to hangout.

We're expecting to do something this weekend, but I got an offer to go out of town for a few days with friends. I might just blow her off and do that.