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[iveyleeger]

I haven't... but I'm sure it's lovely... I hope you find who you're looking for 'cause well... I'm sure I fail all of your criteria.

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Subject: a waterfall bather

there is a great spot on jeremy's run in shenandoah. have you been?

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women don't reply if not interested, right? is this some kind of negative, low-self-esteem depressed chick? i got plenty of other replies with the profile so i don't think it's that

 

[Wyldfire]

Originally posted by iveyleeger
I haven't... but I'm sure it's lovely... I hope you find who you're looking for 'cause well... I'm sure I fail all of your criteria.

-----Original Message-----
Subject: a waterfall bather

there is a great spot on jeremy's run in shenandoah. have you been?

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women don't reply if not interested, right? is this some kind of negative, low-self-esteem depressed chick? i got plenty of other replies with the profile so i don't think it's that

I always respond when I'm not interested. I thank the person for their interest, explain politely why I'm not interested and wish them luck in their search. To me it sounds like there is probably something in your profile that she was kinda put off by. She was just trying to politely tell you that she doesn't think you're compatible.

 

[iveyleeger]

okay, so should i reply to that to be polite? what should i say?

 

[Wyldfire]

Originally posted by iveyleeger
okay, so should i reply to that to be polite? what should i say?

You don't have to reply. She won't be offended or anything if you don't. If you want to reply I'd just say "good luck to you, too."

 

[gixxer]

Personally, I'd discount her but I'd want to play with her some more just to see what was up and try to figure out her deal. Try something like:

Yeah, you failed most of my criteria but you had one important thing. I can't tell you what it is though.........

or

You should let me shoot you down instead of shooting yourself down for me. Takes all the fun out of it

You probably don't want this psycho anyway so you might as well have fun and maybe learn something.

gixx

 

[drZaius09]

Originally posted by gixxer
Yeah, you failed most of my criteria but you had one important thing. I can't tell you what it is though.........

That's not bad.

But I'm inclined to think that this girl was only being polite (in a bizarre, off-handed way) by bearing the onus herself when in fact she really isn't that interested in you.

And women do respond even when they're not interested... although I'd rather they didn't (I'm talking to you, Wyld). It's a bad idea altogether because the guy inevitably gets his hopes up, and most guys (even some of the ones on this board) are awful at taking hints and will assume a girl is interested judging only by the response itself and not the actual content therein.

You probably don't want this psycho anyway so you might as well have fun and maybe learn something.

Agreed. But remember that you can still learn something while not responding at all.

 

[insomniac]

On match they have a generic rejection form letter you can send to people who contact you. Something like:

"Cuteprincess123 wants you to know that she's not interested, but she wishes you luck on your search."

Rejection by proxy. I got one of the those once...ouch! I think it's better to just not write back. Then you can always fool yourself into thinking that she never received your message or didn't have time to respond, rather than know for certain that she looked over you and said no thanks.

 

[Wyldfire]

Originally posted by drZaius09
That's not bad.

But I'm inclined to think that this girl was only being polite (in a bizarre, off-handed way) by bearing the onus herself when in fact she really isn't that interested in you.

And women do respond even when they're not interested... although I'd rather they didn't (I'm talking to you, Wyld). It's a bad idea altogether because the guy inevitably gets his hopes up, and most guys (even some of the ones on this board) are awful at taking hints and will assume a girl is interested judging only by the response itself and not the actual content therein.



Agreed. But remember that you can still learn something while not responding at all.

Well, I'm of the belief that if someone takes the time to write to me it is extremely rude to not respond. I'm not vague like this girl was. I usually write something like. "Thank you for the interest. I'm quite flattered, however, I am only interested in meeting someone who lives within my area. You live to far away. Good luck to you in your search."

 

[iveyleeger]

I told her a bit more about the waterfall in case she wants to go on her own and then said I hoped she meets the right guy too.

I'm guessing the criteria she meant was "slim bod" so there is no point to follow up here.

Thanks for the feedback.