"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Decisions, Decisions...

ohiofutballa

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Ok, first im no stranger to this website I have had a few different names, but have been here for about 3 years. I (hate to be ****y) am a pretty attractive guy, girls always say "you could be a model" And my game is very good, i could rope in just about any girl in my school easily...

I have just finished my junior year in high school, and the whole year I was dating this girl Sarah. Our annivesary was June 10th(1 year) She is really nice and sweet, and we get along very good. The only time we dont is when i go out and party. See, i like to party and talk to girls at parties and what-not. I admit im a flirt, but nothing ever happens. But this is what causes us to fight, she doesnt like for me to party and spend the night at someones house (understandable). But my parents said that i can only drink if i spend the night somewhere. So i would get stuck between a rock and a hard place.

We broke up about a week ago but still kind of talk. I miss seeing her everyday (wink-wink) ;) but i know that other girls woudl still have me. But I cant see myself actually dating those girls, see Sarah would never cheat on me, I was her first kiss, and she would be the only girl that i would actually pursue a relationship with. And yea i could get ass here and there, but it would never be steady, unless i was in a relationship.

But again im coming up on my senior year of high school, and i feel i should just enjoy it and party, make some memories with my friends. But i still miss Sarah and the summer has been kinda of slow so far.

So what would you do, give up one of the best years of your life, or give up one of the best girls of you life.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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LikRetsam

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You broke up because it got to the point where she felt very insecure about your dealings. Did you ever take her to parties?

Don't kid yourself. Highschool is not the best time in your life and nor will any other year be set in stone to be the greatest. If you figure being with her is about missing out then break it off. Either way, you're looking at it that way. One way or the other, you lose.

I don't know how far this mindset will take you but good luck with it.
 

blinkwatt

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the person above me has a very good point,there are no set years when your supposed to have fun. my senoir year was fun but i personally liked sophmore year better.girls can be replaced,school cant and your friends as well. your friends will split and divide when collefge starts.your friends are more valuable at this point in your life,so go have fun with your friends and get drunk as you please dont let yoru old gf hold you down.
 

ohiofutballa

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yea, i took her to parties but she doesnt drink really. So all she would do is follow me around the whole night and was a shadow. If i talked to other girls she would get kind of pissed. So she would wait till i sat down on a couch and try to make out with me the whole night to "stake her property".

Yea i know, your probably thinking i bought into the whole cliche that senior year will be the best years of my life etc... But i know that if i didnt have a girlfriend I would be at a different party every night and have a ****load of fun. But I also miss Sarah, so im still deciding...
 
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