Dealing with something that a girl does that really bothers you or make you think...

[shark]

This goes for ANY girl, but in my situation..it's my girlfriend. Somtimes she'll do stuff or say stuff that really isn't too big of a deal but i'll analyze it and i can't stop thinking about it and what it COULD be blah blah blah. I don't like the feeling of this as it's like it's controlling me and kind of bringing me down.

Ex: I go to touch or hug her and she'll be in a upset mood or act cold towards be and kinda like not touch me back or move away..

That makes me think..wtf did i do. Why is she acting like this. How can i get her into a good mood again..blah blah

So how do you reccomended just not letting this stuff get to you? How do i go about it?

 

[Alphathree]

Your relationship is in trouble and you just don't know it yet because she's having "mixed feelings" but she's "just making sure" that her mind isn't "tricking her".

Mark my words, you'll be back here quoting her saying some combination of the above.

If a woman pulls something like that you need to state it explicitly and literally interrogate her if you have to. Don't tolerate that bullsh~t.

She's acting cold?
"Why are you being cold with me?"
"I dunno/I'm not/what are you talking about"
"Look, I just went to hug you and you didn't really reciprocate."
"<blah blah>"
"Stop. We're not going anywhere until you tell me why you're acting weird."

Just beat that sh~t right out of her. You're acting like a wussy.

 

[shark]

Nah your wrong on this one. She's just a bit moody. Ever since I met her she's been this way on/off friendlyness. And that's with EVERYONE incluidng family,freinds, w/e. She's just moody..it's the way she is.

I am too but i don't show it as much

 

[Alphathree]

Originally posted by shark
Nah your wrong on this one. She's just a bit moody. Ever since I met her she's been this way on/off friendlyness. And that's with EVERYONE incluidng family,freinds, w/e. She's just moody..it's the way she is.

I am too but i don't show it as much

I might be wrong in my first few sentences but my suggestions for dealing with it still apply.

 

[shark]

I'd think if i interrogated her or w/e and get the problem out of her..i'd become annoying and have to listen to problems. But ok..

 

[TxCowboy]

CONGRATULATIONS! you just defined what a girl is or what most of us like to call em .... h0s

 

[Alphathree]

Originally posted by shark
I'd think if i interrogated her or w/e and get the problem out of her..i'd become annoying and have to listen to problems. But ok..

EDIT: REMOVED FIRST SENTENCE DUE TO EXTREME REDUNDANCY ON MY PART, lol

I guess you're just attracted to the way she looks, and that's great, we all are. But if that's the case, then why are you with her in particular? There are lots of attractive girls out there with a p ussy into which you can insert your member and thrust back and forth.

If you're going to have a relationship, make it worthwhile and actually communicate. You don't have to solve her problems and you don't have to be at her beck and call. But listening from time to time doesn't hurt.

 

[shark]

A big reason why i AM into her is b/c of her looks. I mean, it's not like shes a regular pretty girl. She's diffrent..unique with her look. If this was a regular white brunette cutie..theres alot of them. But this one is tan. In addition, her personality i DO like. She is not annoying, and a lot of the times is very sweet and cute.

I think my prob is when she doesn't chase after me or give me attention i can't handle it and think something has to be wrong..hmm

 

[Tazman]

Ex: I go to touch or hug her and she'll be in a upset mood or act cold towards be and kinda like not touch me back or move away..

That makes me think..wtf did i do. Why is she acting like this. How can i get her into a good mood again..blah blah

I think if this was "normal" as you say you wouldn't be making an issue out of it. If you weren't in a good mood would you act cold towards your gf if she tried to touch or hug you? Especially if she isn't the reason you're upset?

 

[shark]

If i was upset with my gf and she went to touch me i wouldnt be too friendly. When i first met her and i admit her IL was at a high then b/c i used all DJ skills (now some LTR stuff) and she would call all the time and w/e..there would be times when i see her and she'd be very friendly tocuhy and the opposite. It's something that kinda has always bothered me.

But this isnt the point..i'm asking in GENERAL when **** is bothering you about a girll..and you KNOW it's not a big big deal but your making it out to be..how do you forget it or become goods?

 

[nishbuk]

Guy I still say that the outcome is the same. My ex wsa the same way. She acted that way toward most people, including me...doesn't me it's NOT a warning sign. I think you had better do some relationship recovery work, if you want this to last.

 

[shark]

relationship recovery..how do you go about that?

 

[Gonzalo]

Dude, sounds like you're the one looking out for her. i.e. she's cold, then you wonder why is she cold? How can I get her to be happy again?

Well, good news, that stuff won't work for long. You have to get her into your reality. Make Her wonder why you act this way or that. Then and only then will you find freedom within a relationship.

I was once told by a policeman (who trains dogs for defense and drug search): If I take my dog to the park, I want to let him loose of the leash, but I don't want to be pending on whether he goes off to the road or runs away; I want the dog to be pending of ME, of whether I am still around or if any harm may come to me".

I know a woman is not a dog, but you get the comparison. Get her to care more rather than vice versa.