Dealing with self-doubt?

[Dan08]

Do you guys have any suggestions with coping with self-doubt and to try and eradicate it? I look in the mirror and feel good but at times doubt myself, my appearance etc.

Got a girl coming to visit, we've had good rapport, flirt etc and got her grabbing a coffee when she's here and yet as it approaches closer and closer the old doubts come creeping in.....is she still interested....should I get in touch.....etc etc

It annoys me because one day I'm fine and the next day it's wank.

You guys have any suggestions?

 

[mike465]

Every time you look in the mirror you have to tell yourself that you're god's gift. You're the man.
If you truly convince yourself of this then you won't have that self doubt.
I'm probably very arrogant towards many people and it creates a kind of love/hate thing where I have enemies aswell as people who want to be around me. Not sure if that's the approach you'd want to take but it works.

But man, if the girl is coming over then stop worrying. The hard part is getting her to have any interest to begin with - after that it's plain sailing.
I don't know you or this girl but sounds straightforward enough.

Not everybody will like you, some people will without you putting any effort in.

Plus if it helps to know, most guys are complete pussies

 

[skinnyguy]

Not giving a fvck is the best thing you can do for yourself at this point. At some point you'll realize that you're overthinking things. Some dude on this forum put it best..."Don't think...ACT".

Another good thing, as Mike suggested, is constantly have thoughts in your mind like "I'm a sex god", or "I'm so hot and women are obsessed with me" and sooner or later you may really believe it.

Shyness is hard to overcome, but once you do it's like looking at life in a whole new way. You realize how bullshyt life really is, and that you can get away with all kinds of behavior. For me, I'm getting there but not quite there yet. I'm still trying to act like I don't give a f around women (cause they really do pick up on it) but some times I slip.

 

[RedZone]

It's understandable. We have all been there. At times everybody feels that way. You just have to rise above it

 

[HyperAnalyze]

In Native American tribes, they used to put young boys through a series of trials and tribulations or "rites of passage" in order to become men.

Once they pass that test, they immediately cut ties to the identity of being a "boy" and start living their life subconsciously as a man, a warrior, a provider.

Surely there aren't any rites of passage being given here, but you have to realize to channel clear energy into your mind and leave the AFC behavior and blood to bleed out of your system so that you can be reborn again.

Look into meditation as well.

Good luck.

 

[Your_Royal_Flyness]

Time to man up buddy. Tough love. The ONLY WAY to get over your self-doubt is to tackle it head on. I've been there man. I had it for a LONG TIM--for all of high school and much of the way through college. Now I can't beat these chicks off me. Here's something specific that you can do. I read it in a book one time and bro, it works.

Its called "The HI Program". For one full week, say "Hi" to EVERY FREAKIN WOMAN that you see. The old ladies, little girls, the mail lady, fat chicks, cute chicks.........ANYTHING with a vag, say HELLO. Why? Because the more you do it and the more you notice that most women are harmless, the MORE CONFIDENT that you'll feel. You'll see that 99.9% of the responses are positive. Some of these chicks (cute or not) will be attracted to you and will love your boldness. And throughout the process you'll feel MUCH LESS ATTACHED to her reaction.

Bro, you also need options. Relying on ONE CHICK as a single man is suicide. Especially if you're doubtful. Having OPTIONS as a man always trumps any ONE COOCH. Get options. Get confidence. Check out the free samples of my audio game in my FLYstore: www.tinyurl.com/FLYstore.

I recommend: "From Shy to FLY": http://store.payloadz.com/go?id=968121&adv=1&Su=SR
and
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[YAboi]

being natural is so hard to explain. I have tried hard in my threads but I just can't articulate it properly. My friend, my advice for you is to work on your thought life and human interactions.

Never ever think too far ahead when dealing with a woman. Just enjoy the present moment and bring fun and make sure you are enjoying YOURSELF. Once u are having a good time the girl will be forced to do the same if she remotely digs you. Once you have sosuave basic gems down just focus on interacting with people.

Take yourself back to grade school when pvssy did not matter cos your hormones were not raging. You just wanted to know people. Now the difference is you have more knowledge so ....all you need do is isolate the girl after you have built a flowing relationship , dont be scared to touch her and bam! The major key is indifference. Not caring about whether or not she likes you because there are millions of other women out there...