One thing that i've noticed with many of the guys on this board is that they dont know how to overcome some of their smaller more popular insecurities. (by popular i mean insecurities that most people have)
i've found one way to deal with these insecurities for myself. whenever im in a situation with a woman that makes me feel insecure i turn it around and pretend that she's having that insecurity.
example:
in a post on the main discussion a guy had met this girl and they talked about getting together over spring break (4 weeks away) since neither of them were planning on going anywhere. he had gotten her number and she seemed to have a high interest level, but the problem was that the guy didn't want to call earlier to set up a date before the one 4 weeks away because he didn't want to look desperate, but he also wanted to do it before the date that was 4 weeks away because he didn't want her to forget about him.
so my advice to him was to call her in a couple of days saying that you'd rather not wait a whole month to meet up with her because he thought that she was an interesting person and a month is such a long time away that he thought having no contact until then could very easily cause HER to slip out of HIS head. so instead of waiting a whole month he would prefer to do something sooner and maybe even become friends.
he was also worried about looking like desperate and needy by calling her early when he could have easily just called her up and said,"hey, i decided to call you so you wouldn't feel desperate and needy if you called me before we got together in a month" (this is assuming that she had his number of course)
this trick is a perfect example of ****y and funny, and shows the girl that you are totally in control of yourself.
by the way, the guy in this example ended up setting up a date with her a few days later
follow along if you would like to!
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=72923
i've found one way to deal with these insecurities for myself. whenever im in a situation with a woman that makes me feel insecure i turn it around and pretend that she's having that insecurity.
example:
in a post on the main discussion a guy had met this girl and they talked about getting together over spring break (4 weeks away) since neither of them were planning on going anywhere. he had gotten her number and she seemed to have a high interest level, but the problem was that the guy didn't want to call earlier to set up a date before the one 4 weeks away because he didn't want to look desperate, but he also wanted to do it before the date that was 4 weeks away because he didn't want her to forget about him.
so my advice to him was to call her in a couple of days saying that you'd rather not wait a whole month to meet up with her because he thought that she was an interesting person and a month is such a long time away that he thought having no contact until then could very easily cause HER to slip out of HIS head. so instead of waiting a whole month he would prefer to do something sooner and maybe even become friends.
he was also worried about looking like desperate and needy by calling her early when he could have easily just called her up and said,"hey, i decided to call you so you wouldn't feel desperate and needy if you called me before we got together in a month" (this is assuming that she had his number of course)
this trick is a perfect example of ****y and funny, and shows the girl that you are totally in control of yourself.
by the way, the guy in this example ended up setting up a date with her a few days later
follow along if you would like to!
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=72923
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