"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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dealing with flaking?

Joeybphs

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How do I deal with a girl that flakes?

We were supposed to do something friday, but then she called me an hour before and said she was too upset to go because she was breaking down because her grandpa died a week or so before. then she said we'll do something tomorrow. I get kind of pissed at her for her flaking on me and we got into a big argument. enxt day she says she isnt sure if she can do anything. i call her later, and *I* can't make it. so she says we'll do something tomorrow. The repitition is getting kind of annoying and i dont quite know how to put my foot down, or whether to get angry or stay calm, or what to say to her. It's ****ing annoying, I just want to hang out with her.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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eaglez1177

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Do not come off as needy and do not keep asking her when your going to hang out. Just play it cool, sit back, and let her come to you. If she doesnt, then cut your losses and find a new chick.
 

Analyzeit

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How to deal with it?? Don't!

Let her come to you, if she doesn't her loss.

I know it's hard to think it is her loss, but it is. It's the most important dj tool (Yes i think its a tool) because if you actually think and believe this, you'll say the right thing more often and become naturally more dj easily.

it's her loss, your the better
 

ariet

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i say something like bye *****

they worry that im mad and = :D it works 80 - 20 for me
 
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