"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Johnnyventana

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Alert: Female DJ often = AW, HPD, BPD. The low self esteem and attention seeking comment was right on.

She seeks obitors for attention and chores.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Johnnyventana said:
Alert: Female DJ often = AW, HPD, BPD.
Yeah, this is the problem.

There's nothing wrong with a woman exploring her options. But if a girl has too many plates it's usually a sign that she has an inflated sense of her own value. Or else such poor self esteem that she has to leech attention from as many guys as she can. Or else she is plain spoiled from too many men filling her head with supplicating BS to the point where she feels entitled. Or all of the above at once.

BlackMack177 said:
a woman does not "game" a man
You're right in the sense that if she is not attractive, no amount of "game" is going to help her. But if she has a certain level of beauty, there are a lot of women who have learned to use their feminine charms to manipulate and wrap guys completely around her finger. And they are very, very good at it.
I would have no desire to become one of these girls' orbiters.
 

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i guess no one can really give you advice on how to deal with her, until you tell us what the problem is.
just because she has career goals and is currently seeing who she likes without being exclusive doesn't constitute a problem on your end.
now if , for instance, you don't want to be with such a chick, then by all means next her.
 
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