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Dealing with different s hit tests from women

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kengarou

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Let's get the thread rollin'
Here are the s hit test questions I have thought of so far of what women might ask (that includes real life ones that I have encountered as well)

1)Do you have a girlfriend?

2)Have you been seeing other women?

3)Why do you approach me in the first place? I am not so pretty , there are other girls you can go after , why me? ( I encountered this one, man I was stumped)

4)Are you a virgin? ( I encountered this HB8 telling me this in the club, I don't know how to react , hence I became embarassed and failed her test)

5)Don't you know that drinking tequila makes you horny? (This happens to me in the club while I was chatting with a HB8.5 after getting comfy with her and all that, she notice my drink and ask me what i am drinking, I told her it is
tequila,and then she mention this line, I was so embarassed , screw up and end up in the friend zone with her.

6)Why you want my number? Do you really like me? ( this one sux big time for me)


So far these are the only ones that came off from the top of my head, I need help here on how exactly i can go about with this.What can I say? I am not good with my words or tongue.I felt like a failure and i never get laid at all in my life.(I admit I am too much of a nice guy and AFC) Please share your experiences as well in this thread on how you tackle other women's sh it tests when she mentioned out of the blue cuz I would love to know more on how to deal with these kind of problems in future.
 

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The Comeback Kid

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I like this thread idea, let's see how I'd do...keep in mind these are just what I'd say or do, it doesn't mean my answers are spot on, because some of them aren't:

1.) "Not yet. It seems you're interested?" (only use the second part if you actually would consider her to be a gf).*

2.) "Sure, I see...(and then start pointing to girls you see or describe your walk over and say you saw one by the crosswalk or a few entering a nearby building).*

3.) She's looking for a compliment. By the way you wrote it, I would guess you two had been talking...come up with a light-hearted compliment regarding something good/funny that you talked about. Just don't say something chiche.*

4.) This one I'm not so great on, if it happens to me I switch the subject lol. I've learned being defensive is not the way to go, it looks weak. I also wouldn't divulge into revealing anything, she doesn't need to know if you're a virgin.

5.) Order another shot in front of her, ask if she'd like one too.*

6.) Well normally I don't just ask for the number straightforward. I usually will say something like, "I g2g, we should grab coffee/go bowling/some other place you talked about/whatever soon, let's exchange numbers and I'll give you a call."

* - the ones with the asterisk are meant to be light-hearted, have a little smirk when you say each thing.

As you can tell, I'm being a little bit of a "wisea$$" with these replies to the girls. I don't want to take their tests the same way I'd take one for class, so it's good to have fun with it. Use the normal C+F, negs, push-pull, etc. too.
 

WC2

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1) No, do you have a girlfriend?

2) Babe, is this like 21 questions?

3) Of course I can go after other women, unfortunately they were all blondes. You my dear, are a brunette.

4) Someone already beat ya to the chase babe, I was deflowered last night. (By the way, women never ask this question unless you lack confidence)

5) I only order shots for women if they're buying me a drink for afterwards

6) Depends. If you're at the bar, don't be a pvssy. K-close this girl and then mingle with others. She'll be on you like sluts on nuts.

If you're in a more sober setting, sure take her number. Don't open up with "hey i gotta go, but"... so overused.. such a pvssy boy move. Look in her eyes like a man, "Hey ____, look we should get together sometime. You know; this is kind of lame, something more fun. Let me get your number and I'll give ya a call sometime."

NOW after you have gotten the number, you can let her know you have to go. Now she knows that you're very assertive and you aren't 'running away with a phone number.' Instead, you grabbed that sh!t and walked away confidently.
 

Warrior74

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First.

Stop worrying about what women might ask. They might ask about any thing under the sun. They might ask what's your dyck size. Or anything. It's not about having an anwser for everything. You personally need to focus on just having a basic conversation. Walking up and saying hello.

You're not going to hold a million anwsers in your head and access them all real time while talking to a girl. That's part of your problem, you are already planning contingencies instead of just going with the flow of coversation.

Conversation is fluid. It happens real time, one thing leads to another. When you are too busy thinking and analyzing it blocks up your flow and your tounge gets tied and your not good with words. You already know this from experience.

Second.

Your responses to these questions show that you are scared to show your masculinity. You are afraid to tell a woman the truth of what you want.

1)Do you have a girlfriend?
How about anwsering honestly if you don't have one. Or you can ask her a question in return and just have fun. "Maybe, do you have a girlfriend?"

2)Have you been seeing other women?
Of course. I'm single. (move on to the next topic)

3)Why do you approach me in the first place? I am not so pretty , there are other girls you can go after , why me? ( I encountered this one, man I was stumped)
This one would probably turn me off to be honest. I'm a bit of a jerk so I would probably say, "you know what, your right. Nice meeting you" and move on.

4)Are you a virgin? ( I encountered this HB8 telling me this in the club, I don't know how to react , hence I became embarassed and failed her test)
You have to ask yourself why are you getting this question. What vibe are you giving off that a woman would even bother to ask something like that? Think on that. There is a reason this question came up. Your in a club? It's probably because you approached her as someone who was afraid or scared (lacked confidence).

5)Don't you know that drinking tequila makes you horny?
'I've heard that.' Smile and let her think on that.

6)Why you want my number? Do you really like me?
Maybe, give me your number and we'll see.



Third.

Practice holding conversations. Get used to talking to people, men and women with no regards to the outcome. Conversation is a skill, the more you practice it the better you get. So get out there and speak to everyone, learn to be comfortable talking to people in general and you'll get better with talking to women. Good luck.
 
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