"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Deactivate your facebook

the_govner

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and you shall be liberated. I did it yesterday!

You don't lose any of your contacts, you can sign back in if ever you badly need to contact someone from there or something.

This will force you to get off your laptop and go out and meet women. It's ****ing amazing.

Cheers!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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really good idea for newbies, but not as great for people that already understand the game.

Some of my friends who are great with women met well over a dozen women through facebook. I don't use social networking game as much as face-to-face interactions in class.

- comic_relief
 

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comic_relief said:
really good idea for newbies, but not as great for people that already understand the game.

Some of my friends who are great with women met well over a dozen women through facebook. I don't use social networking game as much as face-to-face interactions in class.

- comic_relief
I agree, I've done a ton of picking up through fb as well.

However, not saying it from a DJ perspective, but from a more productive/libereating life perspective.
 

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if your at a huge university like me and some of these fellow members, deleting your facebook acct is illogical
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Deactivating your FB acct will not help you if you end spending the time on other useless things. My FB acct is still active yet I spend maybe 3-5 minutes on it per day just to check email messages. I dissable writing on my wall so If anybody wishes to contact me, they send it to my inbox. The first thing you may want to do is to always be ofline so people dont see you and you dont see them when you logged on. The FB chat is what consumes many people's time not the FB itself.
 

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He's right though, the computer can suck you in!
Once you get used to being online all the time, you simply sit in front of the computer and do nothing. You browse some boring websites and expect the internet to entertain you.

This is the most dangerous thing! If you're working or playing some video game, that's ok because you're actually engaged in an activity. But just sitting there, checking facebook, reading wikipedia, doing nothing, THAT is what depresses you. At the end of the day, you will feel empty and hollow.

I found that even if you just lie on your bed for an hour, doing nothing, you will feel better than being bored in front of the computer.
I then vowed to only sit down at the PC if I have a specific purpose and reason to do so. If not, then anything is better than just mindlessly cruising the web.
 

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Huffman said:
He's right though, the computer can suck you in!
Once you get used to being online all the time, you simply sit in front of the computer and do nothing. You browse some boring websites and expect the internet to entertain you.

This is the most dangerous thing! If you're working or playing some video game, that's ok because you're actually engaged in an activity. But just sitting there, checking facebook, reading wikipedia, doing nothing, THAT is what depresses you. At the end of the day, you will feel empty and hollow.

I found that even if you just lie on your bed for an hour, doing nothing, you will feel better than being bored in front of the computer.
I then vowed to only sit down at the PC if I have a specific purpose and reason to do so. If not, then anything is better than just mindlessly cruising the web.

Thank you, you just described yesterday. I need to figure this out as well.
 

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i never got into facebook because i only have one best friend and it would be pretty worthless to have a bunch of people i had met through work or school to catch up with what they are doing now. call me arrogant but i care about what goes on in my life as opposed to how someone i knew in the past just went to cuba and is living the life and has the best job in the world.

my wife has facebook but she just goes on to look at girls she hated that got fat. how can that be fun? what is so good about seeing someones misfortunes in life. its like a high school reunion where everyone wants to have a better life than so and so.

i can deal with people coming and going in my life. they serve their purpose be it good or bad. but if they were so great how come i don't talk to them anymore.
 

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I meet girls from facebook all the time get numbers left and right and I MEET THEM AS WELL....IN PERSON!!! I've "gotten some" thru facebook so yeah i'll go deactivate this 2 a.m sitting at home on monday game plan ...... REALLY? If you're home and bored you can spit game its fun and theres no limit on how many girls there are. and when I go out girls rermember me from facebook and see me with other girls it gets very interesting
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I rarely use it, but when I do I just keep in touch with recent friends and just to throw some BS comments in. Never would I think of it as a dating tool.

My advice, if you have dating profiles, get rid of them. You wouldn't want friends finding out how low you've sunk.
 

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Amante Silvestre said:
I'm seriously thinking about deleting my FB account, but not because I spend too much time on the comp instead of out chasing women in the real world.

My biggest problem with it is that it causes too many problems with the women I'm already with.

FB is a factory that produces way too much jealousy: an ex comes out of nowhere after 5 years to say she misses me and wants to meet for a drink and I'm fighting with the current woman for days over it. Ex-boyfriends "friending" my girl for the same sh*t.

It's all a pain in the ass.

BINGO.

Exactly this. I'm tired of people complaining because I said something on FB instead of calling them.

When I got a new job 4 months ago, I decided to post it on FB right away because I was excited and thought it was less time-consuming than calling everyone up.

3 of my "friends" got pissed because of "How dare you post this on FB before calling me"...

Forget that they never said congratulations...

And same crap goes with women.
That's why I no longer add women I date. Eff that.

And if I ever add someone, it'll be the person I marry.
Other than that, my FB is for a limited few and I never update it anymore.
 

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How do you guys get some thru facebook? Just wondering. I am horrible with conversing online.
 
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